Mary's World

My Christmas Wishlist

2011-11-12T05:26:00.001-06:00

This year I decided that I am only buying Christmas gifts from small businesses. Along with that I thought it would be good for me to put together a list of items I want for Christmas from small businesses as well. Below is the wishlist of things I want from shops on Etsy. I have picked shops whose owners are in one of the Etsy Teams I'm in.

The Pope and the Rabbi

2011-11-08T07:30:00.001-06:00

I received this joke in an email, and it really is just too amusing to not share...

Several centuries ago, the Pope decreed that all the Jews had to convert or leave Italy. There was a huge outcry from the Jewish community, so the Pope offered a deal. He would have a religious debate with the leader of the Jewish community. If the Jews won, they could stay in Italy, if the Pope won, they would have to convert or leave.

The Jewish people met and picked an aged but wise Rabbi Moishe to represent them in the debate. However, as Moishe spoke no Italian and the Pope spoke no Yiddish, they all agreed that it would be a silent debate.

On the chosen day, the Pope and Rabbi Moishe sat opposite each other for a full minute before the Pope raised his hand and showed three fingers.

Rabbi Moishe looked back and raised one finger.

This it? Next, the Pope waved his finger around his head. Rabbi Moishe pointed to the ground where he sat.

The Pope then brought out a communion wafer and a chalice of wine. Rabbi Moishe pulled out an apple.

With that, the Pope stood up and declared that he was beaten, that Rabbi Moishe was too clever, and that the Jews could stay.

Later, the Cardinals met with the Pope, asking what had happened. The Pope said, “First, I held up three fingers to represent the Trinity. He responded by holding up one finger to remind me that there is still only one God common to both our beliefs. Then, I waved my finger to show him that God was all around us. He responded by pointing to the ground to show that God was also right here with us. I pulled out the wine & wafer to show that God absolves us of all our sins. He pulled out an apple to remind me of original sin. He had me beaten & I couldn’t continue.”

Meanwhile the Jewish community gathered around Rabbi Moishe. “How did you win the debate?” they asked.

“I haven’t a clue,” said Moishe. “First he said to me that we had three days to get out of Italy, so I gave him the finger. Then he tells me that the whole country would be cleared of Jews and I said to him, we’re staying right here.”

“And then what?” asked a woman.

“Who knows?” said Moishe, “He took out his lunch, so I took out mine.”

Source: Bits & Pieces

Showing Off Some ...

2011-10-06T13:22:00.001-05:00

I did a post today about the various uses for crystals and gem stones on the TLC Blog. For some reason I’m thinking about crystals today ... mostly getting ideas of how to turn them into useful jewelry items. Which made me think about the fact that I haven’t shown off some of the stuff I’ve already made! So here is a small preview of some of the pieces I’ve made to sell in my Etsy Shop.

This Amethyst is wire wrapped on a purple satin adjustable length cord. Although when I made it I didn’t actually think about it... I now have said it would be a great piece to wear during October to show support of Domestic Violence Awareness Month (DVAM) ... since purple is the DVAM Cause Color.

I love this Crystal! I attached it to a grey satin adjustable length cord.

I’ve also selected and cleansed several stones to put together into various sets.

This Chakra Balancing/Healing Set is my favorite. I have a set like this for myself, which is why I decided to put this one together to sell.

I think this Well Being Stone Set is my next favorite set. After I put this one together I made myself one also!

I have a few other pieces of jewelry and some other stone sets in my shop if you want to go take a look at them... http://www.etsy.com/shop/GuRuOriginals?ref=seller_info And, of course I have some crocheted items up too!

Where is your purple gonna be?

2011-10-01T08:10:00.000-05:00

I usually dye my hair purple for Domestic Violence Awareness Month (DVAM) which is October, and I choose purple because that is the awareness color of Domestic Violence (DV). People always stop me in public and ask me why my hair is purple; cause I do NOT look the type you’d think would normally have purple hair. When they ask, I get the chance to tell them!! Others aren’t so pushy with it and just hang purple lights around their house or purple ribbons on their cars.

Each year around this time I try to write up something about DVAM being just around the corner. I like to make people aware of this month to encourage them to get involved in activities in their local areas. Now is the time to start looking into what activities the DV agencies are hosting during the month of October, so that you can plan and won’t miss the event you want to attend or help with.

I feel that as a society we should be ‘aware’ of domestic violence year round. However, I also realize that by setting aside a certain month to view a certain issue gives us time to focus on and process the information we receive during that specific month. I encourage everyone to become involved in community programs through out the year, which are focused on preventing DV.

If you are not already involved in your local community or surrounding area with helping in the areas of DV Awareness and/or prevention, or helping the victims of DV then the following may be some ways in which you can get involved. This is a general list to give you ideas. If you would like more specific options on how you can help, please contact your local DV Shelter or State Domestic Violence Coalition.

Here is the post that I posted the lst two years and I feel it still works, so I’m giving it to ya again!

So... I get asked: "Great, you tell me to help DV victims during awareness month, but how am I supposed to do that when I have never even met a DV victim?"

There are many people that would be more than willing to do something during Domestic Violence Awareness Month, however they just aren't sure what to do, or where or when or how...

This list is copied from this ARTICLE.

In your place of worship
1. Encourage information about domestic abuse in the congregation's programs, youth groups, marriage preparation, study groups, etc.
2. Establish a committee to promote awareness of the problem and how the congregation can help.
3. Organize a drive to collect food, toiletries, household goods and other needed items for a local domestic violence service.

In your workplace
4. Display posters or brochures (in break rooms, restrooms, or meeting rooms) to promote awareness of domestic abuse and how to get help.
5. Organize a Brown Bag lunch or other event for co-workers and invite a speaker to talk about solutions to the problem.
6. Ask what policies your employer has developed to keep employees safe from a domestic abuser who threatens the workplace.

In schools and daycare
7. Encourage the editor of the school newspaper to have a special issue about teen dating violence and partner abuse.
8. Write a paper about domestic violence to share with students.
9. Educate teachers and other staff about the connection between child abuse and partner abuse.

In civic organizations, clubs or neighborhoods
10. Invite a speaker to educate organization members about domestic violence.
11. Organize a fundraising event or food/toiletries drive to benefit a domestic violence service agency.
12. Publish information about domestic violence and available resources in the newsletter.
13. "Adopt" a family seeking independence from an abuser, to assist with practical needs.

As a Citizen
14. Ask your local library to stock books on domestic violence and to set up displays to educate the public about the issue.
15. Speak out against domestic abuse: Expressing your view that domestic violence is unacceptable has a powerful effect on changing the norms that support abuse.
16. Write letters to newspaper editors or send commentaries to TV and radio to help raise awareness about domestic violence.
17. Vote for public leaders who take a strong stand against domestic abuse.
18. Call 911 if you see or hear a crime of domestic abuse in progress. Write down license plate numbers, locations, and any other information that may be helpful to law enforcement.
19. Volunteer with a domestic violence service. Organizations need help with office activities, fund raising events, technical and professional services and assistance to clients.
20. Donate used clothing and household goods to a program that gives these vital items to families seeking independence from an abuser.
21. Participate in neighborhood crime watch programs.

Hang information flyers and/or awareness flyers in public restrooms, or anywhere else you think would they would be noticed. Now keep in mind that you don't have to stop doing some of this stuff after October! By all means...continue your efforts throughout the year.

The more the merrier!

So in stating this, I implore all of you out there to stand up and do something for domestic violence victims not only in October, but throughout the year. Turn these victims into proud SURVIVORS!!! Give them some hope and some help. To borrow a phrase used quite often, give them a hand-up not a hand-out.

All of these are really general and will take some research, time and effort on your part. But, the way I look at it is this...the time I take to do even one of these activities just may save someone's life.....so are a few minutes of your life worth the life of another?

Halloween is Right Around the Corner! BOO!

2011-09-30T17:04:00.001-05:00

As some of you know I’ve started a shop on Etsy.com to sell my handmade items. One of the teams I’ve joined on Etsy has started a blog and I’m an author on there (well and the blog admin for now too ) But anyway, I wanted to share the below blog post that I posted on the team blog today. Enjoy! If you would like to follow the team blog to see what we are doing the link is: http://etsiansinneed.blogspot.com/

Since all the stores have started pulling out the Halloween costumes and decorations I thought it about time for us to do the same. We have a TEAM TREASURY going right now with nothing but Halloween items from out shops. Come take a look around, click on your favorite items, purchase them today or mark them as a favorite to come back to later! If you like the whole collection, please let us know by favorite-ing it.

Want a sneak peak??

Lets start out getting into the mood with some decorations, shall we....

Now how bout we get ready to take the kids out to get their candy....

Now let’s get ourselves ready for the party....

The night is over and we are back home... top it all off with a nice relaxing bubble bath to soothe away the aches and pains from all that walking, standing or dancing we have done!!

Interested in buying now? Go to the TREASURY and click on your items, that will take you straight to a page where you can buy directly from the person who made the item.

TRICK or TREAT TREASURY COLLECTION

Checking In... and Update of sorts...

2011-09-11T16:37:00.001-05:00

I have been super busy over the last couple months! Haven't had it in me to do much blogging... had to take a break from it all I think. I have re-focused my attentions AGAIN, and hoping this keeps me from the burnout that I have every couple months. I finally updated my Hootsuite account to a pro account so that EVERYTHING is all in one place and re-tweeting and facebooking things is much much easier now... this should help me to stay focused and more organized without all the time spent dredging through things. I have brought the DenomShi Twitter account back to life for tweeting advocacy stuff.. the hardcore in your face things. I ran into an issue with my main twitter account... apparently now they allow you to follow up to 2000 people, after that there is a ratio that you must adhere to of followers to following... and of course that ratio isn't posted anywhere LOL... soooo I reached my 'allowed' to follow limit on cancermoonwolf and had to make a separate account for my craft shop and bring DenomShi back. So I have spent this morning re-doing all of my auto feeds and RSS/ATOM feeds. My twitter accounts are as follows, so that you can follow/re-tweet accordingly:
http://twitter.com/cancermoonwolf Personal, random, everything and anything I feel like tweeting... will include crafts, DV, NCM, SA and CA advocacy and other stuff as well
http://twitter.com/denomshi All advocacy all the time
http://twitter.com/tlcoaching All healing and empowerment all the time
http://twitter.com/guruoriginals All crafts all the time

I've separated facebook as well and links are as follows:

Profile: https://www.facebook.com/maryrmorgan Randomness just like cancermoonwolf twitter account (This is my public facebook account profile, not the private one that only allow people I know in person to have access to... I will not post the link to the private one, if you need/want it, send me a message and if I know you in real life then I may send you a friend request)

TLC Coaching Fan Page: https://www.facebook.com/TailoredLifeCoaching All healing, encouragement, empowerment all the time

LeChrysalis Fan Page: https://www.facebook.com/pages/Le-Chrysalis/195308940514173 DV aftercare, support, encouragement, and empowerment (I help with this one, don't own it)

GuRu Originals Fan Page: https://www.facebook.com/GuRuOriginalsFanPage Craft stuff and items I sell, craft discussions and tips for various crafts

I have a group on facebook as well that is a private group for those that want to try to make money online through crafting or hobbies/arts and stuff along those lines.... if anyone is interested in an invite to that group please send me the link to which profile you want to have the invite sent to on facebook. It is basically an empowerment group for NCM's and DV survivors that want to start a small business or make a little extra income, which is why it is private and by invite only... topics may come up that are sensitive and do not need to be read all over facebook.

Please share these twitter and facebook links out and follow them as appropriate, thanks!!!

Blogs:
Personal: http://marysworldblog.blogspot.com/ Randomness
Coaching: http://tailoredlifecoaching.blogspot.com/ Healing and Empowerment
Advocacy: http://denomshischaostheory.blogspot.com/ Same as it has always been

I still have Miss Sacagawea but moved to blogspot because wordsupress locked my account due to something on the MISS blog that someone else owned and had put up. http://misssacagawea.blogspot.com/ So if any of you have stuff to put on there let me know, I'm slowly moving posts from wordpress over as well

I no longer have Anonymiss... not sure if I will start that back up or not. Many people have said that it was a good resource but I just couldn't keep up with it. In the mean time you can direct people to: http://lechrysalis.blogspot.com/ which I help with and post to as I have time.... same content as Anonymiss had. I decided to stop paying for Anonymiss and if I do start it back up will more than likely be on blogspot and free! LOL

I've completely lost track of who is doing what and where online... if I'm not following your twitter or facebook pages please respond to this with your links... or friend me on facebook and I will find your stuff. I 'm still doing advocacy and awareness stuff and will share out all that you send my way!! My main focus, however, for now is still helping the women (and now adult children) that are survivors of abuse in all it's different forms... as well as running my craft business, which comes first but ties into it all.

My coaching stuff remains free of charge to all, I am just not taking on clients at this time... I blog the stuff and post it, I will communicate with individuals that need to do so, but I no longer have client sessions... I've had to change this simply because too many have wanted those sessions and then just turned into emotional vampires that really don't want to do anything for themselves... I can't handle that. Know thy limitations, I say LOL

The way my craft business ties into all this is this: It shows others that it CAN be done, I also help others get going, and the money I make can be used to help me with the coaching and advocacy things I do as well as buying supplies for various shelters that I help out when I can. (Not all the money I make will be used for this, some/most will be used for personal stuff.... ) With the group on facebook I can even teach women to make things that they never would have thought they could... and then they can turn around and sell those things... after having free lessons in learning a new craft or hobby.
Once I get moved and we are settled in (probably in March or April of next year) I will be getting back out into the community more like I use to do... helping women face to face and putting up flyers, etc etc etc

You can check out my Etsy Shop here: http://www.etsy.com/GuRuOriginals

You can find the daily papers I do here:

Domestic Violence Daily: http://paper.li/cancermoonwolf/dv-sa-ca

Go Empower Yourself Daily: http://paper.li/TLCoaching/empowerment

Crocheting with Hemp

2011-03-29T15:29:00.001-05:00

Anyone that crochet’s or knows a person who crochet’s knows that crocheters will attempt to crochet with any material that will bend ... so it’s not that surprising that I decided to try crocheting with hemp. I make jewelry using hemp rope so thought I should trying crocheting with it. I thought hemp would make a good material for pot scrubbies because of its semi-roughness and flexibility. I’m sure, however, that I am not the first person to ever think of this... I just didn’t bother to look it up and see.

I made a simple little scubbie which didn’t take much of the rope at all. The first thing that I noticed was that when hemp is bent and pulled several times it starts to stink...lol I was trying to decide on a design so I would crochet a little then rip it out, which is how I discovered this. I just hope that once wet it doesn’t smell horrible!

I also decided that even if this little thing works well, I probably will not be making very many of them... crocheting with hemp is a little rough on the fingers. It didn’t actually take more than 10 minutes to make though, so maybe I will make more, just not today...lol

This is the little scrubbie that I made. I’m not good at writing patterns, but have attempted to write below the pattern for this.

Using a G hook and #48 Hemp ch 13

Row 1: In 4th ch from hook dc, dc in each ch to end (11dc) ch 3, turn

Row 2: *sc in next dc, dc in next sc; repeat from * to end (11 stitches) ch 1, turn

Row 3: *dc in next sc, sc in next dc; repeat from * to end (11 stitches) ch 3, turn

Row 4-7: Repeat rows 2 and 3 twice more

Row 8: Repeat row 2 with the exception of ch 3 then turn

Row 9: dc across, finish off

Weave in beginning and ending tail

To Delete or Not to Delete: My Ponderance of Blogging

2011-03-28T15:32:00.001-05:00

While going through my Google Reader, which was LONG overdue, I actually took the time to read some posts on blogs that I follow... but don’t really keep up with the way I want to. The one that prompted this blog post is on Angela Shelton’s Blog, To Blog or Not to Blog. I’ve been thinking for the past couple of days that I should be blogging more, both here and on Tailored Life Coaching (TLC). Really, what’s the point in having these blogs if I’m not going to use them.

I have a few other blogs that are not under my real name... those I tend to keep up with a little better. I think it is because they are just informative blogs, copy paste type blogs where I actually have to say very little. Whereas my two main blogs should have some thought behind the posts. Reading Angela’s post today really made sense to me though, in light of my recent pondering of my own blogs.

When I first started this blog it was with the intention to allow only my close friends and family access to it... it was an effort to save time by posting things here that I would usually email to individuals or call people about. I guess it, at times, has also taken on the role of being a sort of online journal for me rant, vent, or whatever. This blog has always been for me (rather than me writing for others benefit) and about various things... thus the randomness of the posts.

I go through cycles of wanting to delete it, then I remember an email or message I’ve gotten from someone way back whenever, saying something positive about my post(s) here. So, after much thought today I am going to forego the hitting of that ‘delete blog’ button that rears its ugly head at me from time to time, and start making time to blog about the things in life that actually matter to me.

One of those things is Domestic Violence (DV) and all that it entails. Actually, my DV advocacy is what prompted the TLC Blog in the first place. There was a two-fold purpose in that... first was because I wanted a place to help DV (and sexual assault (SA) and child abuse(CA)) victims and survivors with their healing and going on with their lives. My second reason was that all my friends and family do not need to or want to read/see all the posts related to healing from the trauma of DV/SA/CA.

Other blogs that I have are about DV Advocacy from the view point of making others aware of what goes on behind closed doors... so many people have no clue about DV until they find themselves or a friend going through it. In my opinion awareness and healing information types need to be separate... but have I now spread myself so thin that just the thought of blogging anything anywhere is daunting? I think I may have.

So it’s back to basics

Do I need all these different blogs? Yeah, I think I do... for several reasons. DV isn’t the only thing I have an interest in and is not the one and only thing that defines me as a person... thus the need for this blog. I want to share what I’m doing in life that is positive without all the focus on a negative past... which also leads to the TLC Blog and it’s purpose, so that blog will stay as well... I can leave it there for those that need that type of thing.

So without further ado... expect to see more blogging going on here about crocheting, books I’m reading, classes I’m taking, random things that cross my mind ... but mostly just about ME living my life.

Half Full or Half Empty

2011-03-28T12:26:00.001-05:00

Taken from: http://9gag.com/gag/95707/

How I Feel More Often Than Not

2011-02-21T12:22:00.000-06:00

Hookin’ for a Cause- Recap Episode 1: Basics and Supplies

2010-03-13T14:57:00.001-06:00

During the live recording I mentioned several links and posted them into the chat area. Since the chat area clears when the show is over I am posting the links here for everyone.

During today’s show, Basics and Supplies, we learned three basic stitches: chain (ch), single crochet (sc) and double crochet (dc). I also talked about various yarn types and sizes as well as various hook sizes. If you missed the show you can watch it here: http://www.ustream.tv/recorded/5419558

Good place to buy yarn in bulk quantities at VERY discounted rates: http://smileysyarns.com/

Good place to buy any craft items, including crochet supplies: http://www.herrschners.com/

Of course you don’t have to buy your yarn and hooks and supplies online, you can buy them from Michael’s, Hobby Lobby, Wal-Mart, a specialty yarn store or anywhere else you can find them!

Social network for yarn crafters, knitters and crocheters: http://www.ravelry.com

My profile on Ravelry, if you join, look me up: http://www.ravelry.com/people/mary1293

A fan page on Facebook that has beautiful designs: http://www.facebook.com/#!/pages/CroChet/77141923060?v=wall&ref=ts (this is not mine although I do follow this fan page)

The charity that one of the Army of Angels knits for: http://www.knit-a-square.com/knitting-for-charity.html

Hookin’ for a Cause- My New Live Show

2010-03-12T12:39:00.002-06:00

During a video chat with the Army of Angels we were talking about various things and the subject of knitting and crochet came up. Someone mentioned that they knit squares for a charity. That led to me jumping in to say that I crochet and have crocheted for charities. Well...the conversation went from there to now I am doing a live show online every Saturday at 3pm EST to teach crochet.

Our plan is to learn just the basics at first, making squares to attach together into afghans and lapghans to gift to various outlets that help abused women and children. The first show is tomorrow ( March 13th) and during that show I will go over the very basics.

I will be talking about what supplies you need to have on hand to get started. I will discuss the different hooks and sizes as well as the different yarn textures, sizes and prices. I will be giving links during that show to various online resources for buying yarns and hooks and also to a few yarn craft social networks that are I have found to be useful as well as fun.

I will be using Ustream for this live broadcast. For those that are not familiar with Ustream, basically you will be able to hear and see me live and next to the video there is a chat area where those watching can chat or ask questions and make comments live during the show. I will be monitoring that chat stream throughout the show so that it is more interactive; allowing for questions as we go along.

The Ustream channel for the show, Hookin’ for a Cause, is: http://www.ustream.tv/channel/hookin-for-a-cause

Even if you are not a member of the Army of Angels please feel free to join us! If you would just like to learn crochet and do not plan to use your new craft/hobby for charity...that is fine too, join us anyway!

I look forward to seeing many people joining in to learn how to crochet! Those that already crochet are welcome as well...we will be moving forward from the basics quickly.

It’s Heart Month...go jump a rope...what?

2010-02-09T14:44:00.001-06:00

No, that is not just some random title...this post is actually about jumping rope. No, I’m not the one jumping rope (and even if I were, I’m not taping it) and I am not asking any of you to jump rope...

But, in case you missed out on wearing red on Friday the 5th for Go Red for Women Day or whatever that was...

Women are not the only ones that can have heart trouble, kids can too (and well men of course too...not tryin’ to leave ya’ll out of this!); and that is why elementary schools around the country are teaching kids about heart health this month. They are raising awareness, and money, along with teaching prevention steps to young kids!

My nephew is doing the American Heart Association Jump Rope for Heart Program through his school. Please go to his page here: American Heart/American Stroke Association: to read about what the program is and what he is doing. He is still young yet so there is no donating for him doing so many jumps or for a certain time frame. Just an overall donation that helps him to reach the goal he set and helps those that are in turn helped by the American Heart Association.

Along with doing the day of recognition and awareness of heart disease at the school the kids will learn about how to keep their hearts healthy. From what I understand they are all going to be jumping rope together that day.

There is more information about the program on his site, so please go there and read it (American Heart/American Stroke Association: ) and make your donation. Damara already did hers....her mama is being lazy, I haven’t gotten mine in yet! LOL!

My nephew has raised 30% of his goal as of this morning!!

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Fraud Crackdown in Virginia

2010-02-08T05:26:00.001-06:00

I am putting this here as a favor to someone for others to copy and pass on as they see fit...
Official Press Release

There are thousands of cases here in VA where the courts are pay for play in cases of child abuse, rape and domestic abuse. We have finally gotten someone to look into the corruption, but to get them to take action, we need as many people to report to the US Attorney here. Please call, write or email the following people. According to the Daily Press, 2/6/2010, Page 4, Crime Notebook, they are seeking information on State and Local corruption. Please Tweet this information.

"Fraud crackdown By Ashley Kelly and Peter Dujardin

The Eastern Virginia District of the United States Attorney's Office had hired two people to crack down on financial fraud and public corruption.

The U.S, Attorney's Office is expanding its fraud unit by hiring fraud prosecutors and increasing its ability to prosecute financial fraud, including securities fraud and mortgage fraud. The office says the potential for fraud also is high as a result of billions in federal spending being directed at recovery efforts.

The number of public corruption cases handled by the Eastern Virginia District has increased from 11 in 2005 to 21 in 2009.

Charles Connolly was named chief of the fraud unit. An assistant U.S. attorney in the Eastern District of Virginia since 2002. Connolly has served as the office's corporate fraud and health care fraud coordinator.

Mark Lytle was named district wide public integrity coordinator. His job will be to expand the office's ability to investigate and prosecute potential corruption by federal, state and local officials.

Lytle has served as an assistant U.S. attorney in the office since 2004 and recently concluded the conviction of former Congressman William J. Jefferson on bribery, racketeering, and money laundering charges , according to a news release."

The people to contact are Charles Connolly and Mark Lytle

US Attorney's Office
101 W Main Street
Suite 8000
Norfolk, VA 23510-1671
(757) 441-6331
USAVAE.VAA@usdoj.gov

God can't use you?

2010-01-31T18:20:00.001-06:00

Yes, this is one of those pesky email forwards..but I liked it so I’m posting it...

The next time you feel like God can't use YOU, just remember...

•             Noah was a drunk

•             Abraham was too old

•             Isaac was a daydreamer

•             Jacob was a liar

•             Leah was ugly

•             Joseph was abused

•             Moses had a stuttering problem

•             Gideon was afraid

•             Samson had long hair and was a womanizer

•             Rahab was a prostitute

•             Jeremiah and Timothy were too young

•             David had an affair and was a murderer

•             Elijah was suicidal

•             Isaiah preached naked

•             Jonah ran from God

•             Naomi was a widow

•             Job went bankrupt

•             John the Baptist ate bugs

•             Peter denied Christ

•             The Disciples fell asleep while praying

•             Martha worried about everything

•             The Samaritan woman was divorced, more than once

•             Zaccheus was too small

•             Paul was too religious

•             Timothy had an ulcer...AND

•             Lazarus was dead!

Carolina Poodle Rescue needs transport help

2010-01-22T13:42:00.001-06:00

The below was passed to me via email. If you are in the Harrisonburg, VA or Roanoke, VA areas and could give about 3 to 4 hours of your time helping with this, please read below and use the contact information given.

Please pass this on to anyone that you may know of in those areas that may be willing to help out.

This Transport is for Carolina Poodle Rescue.
www.carolinapoodlerescue.org. If you can help, please contact me at
brwbnnyb@aol.com. I will need your full name, home and cell #'s as
well as a description of your vehicle.

DATE: Sun. 1/24

DATA: The Shelter in Clarksburg,WV had a fire. Luckily, Petey was in
a different building. He is a STD Poodle X and is UTD. He will be
neutered upon arrival at CPR's Dreamweaver Farm in Pacolet,SC. where
he will fatten up and look for his approved forever home. He is
underweight at approx 50 lbs. He will be traveling with Certified Vet
papers and certificate and collar/leash.

Hagerstown,MD to Harrisonburg,Va... 2 hr. 40 min....113 mi.....FILLED
Harrisonburg,Va to Roanoke,VA......2hrs.....97 mi.......NEEDED
Roanoke,Va to Mt. Airy,NC....1 hr. 50 min....107 mi....NEEDED
Mt.Airy,NC to Charlotte,NC....1 hr. 45 min......99 mi.............FILLED
Charlotte,NC to Pacolet,SC.....1 1/2 hr..........70 mi............FILLED

Thanks so much!!! I look forward to hearing from anyone who can help
Petey find the loving home he deserves!!!! This Transport will leave
Hagerstown approx. 9:00 Sun morning.

Bunny Brown
Transportation Coordinator
Carolina Poodle Rescue
843-665-2478

No playing ball in the house

2010-01-18T08:55:00.005-06:00

They both know that separately they are not allowed to play ball in the house...that apparently doesn't apply if both are sitting calmly! LOL! They didn't think they'd get caught! (I think I have the video actually working this time)

Sent from my BlackBerry Smartphone provided by Alltel

Well that sums it up, perfectly!

2010-01-07T20:52:00.001-06:00

UPDATE: 10 Little Dogs

2010-01-03T13:40:00.001-06:00

This is just an update from Carolina Poodle Rescue about the 10 little dogs I posted about the other day....

Here is a quick update on the 10 little dogs.
Chelle and Karen pulled in about 4 pm with a van load of very scared
little dogs. Thanks to everyone who helped get them here.Â Everybody
is in isolation as several have kennel cough.Â I saw one little shih
tzu who has a scarred eye and most of them have some sort of flea
allergy dermatitis.Â Dirty dirty little dogs, but we'll change that
soon.
Â
Thanks again for helping us get these to safety. Your help brought
these little ones to us.

happy new year to all!

2009-12-31T12:42:00.001-06:00

Or well, at least I hope none of us will.....

10 Words We All Need to Stop Misspelling

2009-12-31T11:16:00.001-06:00

Ok, so I do make some of these mistakes myself...let me see which ones...

30 Dec 2009

Created by The Oatmeal

With this first one...do not get either of these words confused with loss either! Loss means something that is, at the most basic level, lost.

This one I have always taken to be a typo...but when I think about it we have always been taught ‘i’ before ‘e’ except after ‘c’ or when sounded as a as in neighbor and weigh....well weird this word doesn’t fit that rule. There are a few others that don’t either...hehehe, either is one of them! Neither, foreign, height, leisure, seize.

Getting these next three sets of words confused is my 2nd pet peeve (my 1st is below) that will make me not read another word that person has to say.

This next one is one that I always misspell but not with an ‘a’...I usually spell it definetly but I usually catch it when I proof read...but I don’t always proof read either!

This one is confusing for almost everyone....when people make this mistake, it can be over looked most of the time...unless it is someone that asks like they are perfect...then it is wonderful to point it out to them!

I don’t see this mistake very often...

I am guilty of this...I forget that little space ALOT! LOL!

Ok, this is it...my number 1 biggest per peeve as far as writing goes. This one is so basic...I not only can’t finish reading that particular piece (whatever it may be...article, email, IM, whatever)...I rarely look at the person in the same light ever again...most people that make this mistake repeatedly make excuses when you point it out to them and rather than learning from it, they continue to make this mistake over and over again, making themselves look like uneducated idiots!

me with blue hair

2009-12-30T22:48:00.002-06:00

I was playing around on this Avon site doing a Virtual Makeover....I decided to see what I'd look like with blue hair...well here are the results...I still look very normal. I think I should be afraid of that!!

10 little dogs

2009-12-30T17:49:00.001-06:00

No, this is not a remix of the Ten Little Indians song we all learned as kids...this is serious...

The shelter, where my mom and step-dad adopted their furry little bundle of joy, sent this out on behalf of ten little dogs (ankle biters all...don’t cha know) that are in need of shelter. Yes this happens to be a plea and cry (or is that a whimper and yelp) for help...money at the moment...simply to spring these little guys from the slammer....but guess what it is NOT...

...it is not a hoax...it is very real. So, please read the below, and if you are in NC or SC (or well even if you can’t...most people still own those things that I recall being called checkbooks) and can help. please do or if you know of someone that can help...please pass this on. Thanks!

If you would feel better about it, look up the phone number (shelter name is at the bottom down there) and call them, before you just go off all willy-nilly sending money around the world!

There are 10 little dogs really need your help.
These dogs were confiscated by animal control from a backyard
breeder/hoarder situation in NC. The officer said the conditions they
were in were horrible. They were living in crates in their own filth.
Surprisingly, considering their condition, The dogs actually have
good temperaments and are not really afraid of humans. We should be
able to find them homes!
These little ones are coming to Dreamweaver Farms: The dogs are: 2
male & 1 female shih tzus, 2 male mini poodles, 3 female toy poodles
and 1 male & 1 female maltese.
The animal shelter they are in are requiring us to pay upfront the
fees associated with them. We are paying $ 55 for the males and $ 80
for the females.
Please help us get these little ones to safety and let these little
guys have a better start to their New Year!! You can mail a check to:
Carolina Poodle Rescue, Business Office, 10901 Reidville Rd, Greer, SC
29651. Or visit our website www.carolinapoodlerescue.org
and click on any of the donation options
to contribute for them. In the memo section specify 10 dogs.

Gmail - 10 little dogs need your help! - cancermoonwolf@gmail.com

Help Save Kids form Court Ordered Abuse

2009-12-29T08:07:00.001-06:00

Hey...please take a few minutes read some of what this mom and her kids have gone through and are still going through...then take a look at the petition to help them....sign if you are so inclined to do so. Thanks in advance for your time, I’m sure it means alot to these kids and their mom!

Petition to Reunite Lora Brislin with her two daughters Megan and Elizabeth: We, the undersigned, are standing together in an attempt to speak for these little ones who are not allowed to speak for themselves and, in order to prevent further destruction in their lives, we are asking that this case be revisited and that The Truth finally be brought into The Light so that justice can prevail: http://www.thepetitionsite.com/1/reunite-lora-brislin-two-daughters

Take Action and Sign Now!

Here is their story:

http://parentingabusedkids.wordpress.com/2009/12/28/petition-save-sisters-from-court-ordered-abuse/

Lora Brislin is the mother of two daughters ages 6 and 4. Lora has not spoken to or seen her daughters since April of this year (2009). In May Judge Phyllis Miller of Gwinnett County, Georgia ordered that ALL custody and visitation be taken from Lora, and that the girls be in the sole custody of their father and his new wife.

Lora endured 5 years of physical and mental abuse at the

hands of her former husband, the father of their 2 girls. During which time he, repeatedly hit Lora as well as stalked, harassed, and verbally abused her.

During their marriage the father wanted nothing to do with their two daughters. When Lora finally found the courage to leave her abuser in October of 2006, the father suddenly became adamant in 2007 after advice of his attorney to start exercising his visitation because he was not doing so. Not only did he get visitation of these children, he began threatening to take custody away from Lora Brislin.

Lora has been the one, for two years now who has had to endure a battery of psychological tests, chastisement and ridicule from the courts, and little help on the part of law enforcement officials. For two years, Ms. Brislin has heard numerous pleas of help from her daughters and has tried to make the courts listen to her and her children and, once and for all, hear the TRUTH. Instead, she was laughed at by the courts, told she was making false allegations against their father, and was a menace to her children. On May 7, 2009 the father was awarded sole custody and Lora was to have no contact with her daughters whatsoever by their Judge who has since been disbarred this July 2009.

The father served a lengthy term in jail as a result of his criminal activity. In one of his previous marriages, not only did he also abuse his former wife as well. He abandoned his son and gave up his parental rights in exchange for child support (not having to pay).

Lora Brislin, along with the undersigned, is confused by this outrageous injustice by the court. Ms. Brislin is not the only loving and responsible mother who has had her children literally ripped from her arms and placed in the sole custody of an abusive father. We are asking that this case be reopened and investigated. We ask that this egregious injustice be dealt with, and that Lora and her daughters be reunited. If the sisters were placed in a neutral setting during this process and their safety assured to them, they would most likely state that they do not feel safe with their father and wish to be able to live with their mother. They were “whipped” into silence and at one point made to say it was their mother who was the alleged molester when they were accompanied by their father to interviews.

This grave misuse of power cannot be stood for! Clearly there is some reason other than simply poor judgment on the part of the courts that has caused Lora Brislin to lose all contact with her children. No matter what that hidden agenda might be, if the court decision is allowed to stand the Gwinnett County court system will be continuing to place these children in harms way and be punishing their mother for trying to protect them! NO CHILD OF DOMESTIC VIOLENCE IN THIS STATE CAN BE CONSIDERED SAFE IF WE CANNOT GET THESE SISTERS SAFE!

There are men and women all over the country as well as all over the world, who are watching to see what is done about this horrific case of court-ordered abuse. We believe that if government officials do not intervene in cases like this in which a clear misuse of power has destroyed the lives of two young children and their mother, then the government should be seen as, not only negligent, but as condoning this outrageous behavior on the part of judges who seemingly, has to answer to no one!

Our family court system was supposed to have been put in place for the purpose of aiding families, and in cases where abuse is involved, supporting the protective parent, thereby ensuring the safety of innocent and defenseless children. In this case, however, it appears that the very system that was put into place for the purpose of protecting children is, instead, aiding in the traumatizing of these helpless victims.

Update December 8, 2009: I just wanted to let members know that though we have been threatened legal action if this and similar sites were not taken down, this will not deter us in our fight for TRUTH and JUSTICE. We are not interested in clouding issues, we want to bring the truth into the light and if this upsets people, then they must have… something to hide. We have obviously hit a nerve and we got a reaction. We will continue to advocate for the Brislin sisters until a true, ethical and indepth investigation is completed. Not limited to polygraphs and the reopening of former documented evidence.

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Petition to Reunite Lora Brislin with her two daughters Megan and Elizabeth: We, the undersigned, are standing together in an attempt to speak for these little ones who are not allowed to speak for themselves and, in order to prevent further destruction in their lives, we are asking that this case be revisited and that The Truth finally be brought into The Light so that justice can prevail: http://www.thepetitionsite.com/1/reunite-lora-brislin-two-daughters

Take Action and Sign Now!

Save 6 and 4 year old Sisters from Court Ordered Abuse Facebook Page:

http://www.facebook.com/home.php?#/group.php?gid=196710765527

Partnership Against Domestic Violence (PADV), Georgia (Education, Safety Planning, Shelter, Advocacy): http://www.padv.org

Girl Scouts...ROFLMAO!!!

2009-11-18T20:13:00.002-06:00

What’s going on in Mary’s World??

2009-11-14T19:09:00.001-06:00

...TOO much! I usually don’t use my blog to update people but this is the quickest way for me to do it this time...

First off my dad is in the hospital, he is doing better. He has pancreatitis and gallstones; they are talking about removing the gallbladder on Monday, but that is not set in stone yet. I have not been up there yesterday or today (only two days I haven’t went to the hospital) to see him, but will be doing so tomorrow...hopefully talking to the doctor or nurse tomorrow to find out more about Monday.

My son started basketball this week and so far he is really liking it. He is a little sore but ok otherwise. The football coach is letting them use the weight room before practice and he tried that on Thursday...I think that is why he is so sore last two days. Their first game isn’t until Dec. 3rd. I think they are planning to practice during their Thanksgiving break even. They have that whole week off here.

I’m not getting much time to get anything done or to be online because the hospital is about 45 minutes in one direction and the school is about 20 minutes in the opposite direction. The hospital did finally extend the visiting hours so now I won’t be rushing back and forth at least....

My dog is also doing much better...she spent about a week not walking or putting any weight on one of her back legs and I thought it was the cold damp weather make her hips hurt since she is so big and I’m fairly certain she has hip dysplasia. But yesterday and today she was fine and fully of energy and jumping around, so now I am thinking that she just hurt that leg last weekend when the kids had her outside playing and throwing the ball.

I finally got my first appointment with the VA docs up here, all my med records and everything were transferred finally. I spent about 6 1/2 hours there on Thursday. This new doc agrees with the last one that I probably have fibromyalgia, but she has ordered testing to rule out multiple sclerosis. She had me do xrays and a full blood work up while there and is scheduling a couple different MRI’s and a CAT scan and something else that I can’t remember. One of the tests it to check for TBI and make sure that raised area behind my ear is not a crack in my skull....which she doesn’t think it is, but she wants to make sure.

I should be getting my appointment schedules this coming week for all the testing and the other consults she put in for me to see other docs too.

She added two new meds to help me with the pain that I am having through my shoulders, upper back and down my side. These are also supposed to help with the ‘electric shock’ sensations that I am having randomly....I hope so! LOL! So far I have only taken one of the new meds and so far all it has done is make me high...LOL! Tomorrow I am going to try to other one.....so we shall see.

Well, I think that about sums it up!

Testing something

2009-10-21T18:34:00.001-05:00

test

Self-Organization

2009-10-17T11:04:00.001-05:00

In an effort to get myself organized I have been trying to find ways to cut down on the amount of time I spend looking for articles and topics to blog about on my various other blogs....we all know I am not looking for this blog, since it sits unattended most of the time.

I have found that I can now have my Google Alerts sent into Google Reader. So now not only are the blogs I’m following all in one place, so are my keyword news alerts. When I open Google Reader each morning it is like opening a personalized newspaper! This has cut down on the clutter in my email inbox also.

I’ve also learned that I can add my Shared and Starred Items from reader to my blogs, you can see that I did that here a while back. This now allows me to just share or star an article in Google Reader, rather than having to go copy and paste it into a new blog post for my own blog. I have always felt that I shouldn’t do that anyway, but when I want to share an article with my blog readers, sharing just the link is usually not a good idea. Most links disappear eventually, and well if someone comes to my blog and finds nothing but disabled links on several entries, they probably won’t come back. The boxes on my blogs with my Starred and Shared items only hold up to 10 article links, and are refreshed every time I add to them...thus alleviating the problem!

Then I started thinking about my email issues....I mean, I have WAY too many email accounts...hell I am not that busy or important to need that many different email addresses. However, when I started trying to eliminate some of them, I soon realized WHY I have them all and that actually NONE of them could be deleted. So now what, if I take the time each day to check each one, I would get nothing else done. So, I forwarded ALL of them into my one main email account with GMail. I even set up that account so that when I get emails from the other accounts I can respond right there from my main account but the ‘from’ field will have the email addy that the original email was sent to!

This is nothing new, and I have had this set up in the past. However, about 8 months ago I decided to give Outlook 2007 a try (I hated it, and quickly went back to checking Gmail online). While I was trying it out though and sending test messages to and from my different accounts to ensure that all were forwarding into Outlook correctly I noticed that when I’d send an email from one of my secondary account addy’s from my main account that it showed BOTH email addresses in Outlook. It would say something like

From: mm cancermoonwolf@gmail.com on behalf of Mary Morgan tailoredlifecoaching@gmail.com

Well, that wasn’t good, so I went in and stopped ALL my accounts from forwarding to my main Gmail account, because I thought what was the point if my personal email addy was going to show up anyway. Well, recently I decided to put it all back to forwarding in to my personal account. I just don’t care anymore, if my personal account shows up also! But, at least I do know it happens, so if in the future I have something to send and make up an email addy that is ‘not associated’ with my real name and personal account, then I know not to send it THROUGH my personal account!

Since I do alot of blogging that could be classified as Advocacy or Activism I have looked at whether or not I could combine some of my blogs....but thinking at this time that just wouldn’t work.

I have gotten my Tweetdeck columns more refined now, which saves me time in searching for certain people that always have good tweets. And, with twitterfeed I have set up many of my blogs and some that belong to others to auto tweet when posted to. A couple of people ask me why I auto tweet other peoples blogs....well, because I read those blogs everyday, and was tweeting all their articles anyway, so why not automate it....a few minutes are saved and I have more time for other things!! I also have my facebook and myspace accounts set up in tweetdeck, so that I send to all three at same time if I want. And I linked my Twitter account to my Facebook account so that the auto tweets are posted to Facebook too.

All in all I think my self-organization project is working well. I have been making slight changes over the last few weeks, but overall....I am saving some time in what I am doing!!

Abusers Use the Court System to Continue Victimization

2009-10-14T13:03:00.000-05:00

This is a copy of the speech written by Gail Lakritz and given today by Angela Warren at the Pueblo Colorado Conference. This speech was given to judges, police, lawyers and DV advocates.

How Abusers Use The Court System To Continue to Victimize Their Partners and Children

When a woman finally makes that decision to end the abuse and to flee the abusive situation, she rightfully expects that the police, her lawyers and the courts will protect her and her children from further harm. Being a member of the Sheriff's Posse, that is what I was thought. After all, the courts always operate solely by the law, correct? (Scan audience for nods of agreement) We all know that does not happen and that is why I was so confused by my litigation. When injustice reared its ugly head, it flew in the face of everything I thought our country stood for, and, as with most victims of abuse, I came to realize that the system is stacked against the victim.

Today, I want to speak to you about some of the ways the abuser will use the system to further the abuse during the litigation process. It is my hope that, by exposing these tactics, you will recognize in your peers, and perhaps yourselves, what is being done has real, and all too often, deadly consequences.

The litigation abuse begins the moment the abuser is arrested. He plays on the sympathy of the arresting officers. He will use excuses to enlist them in his game. He is, after all, a master at deception. He has years of practice. He is the person who can look you straight in the eye and lie. During the ride to the lock up, he will say things like "She is an alcoholic or a drug addict", "She is always picking on the kids" or "She takes all the money and spends it on herself and we never have enough to eat." Anything that will garner sympathy and sway them to lessen the severity of what is written in the arrest report. And, being taught to spot the antagonist of a situation as they true perpetrator of the situation, the police officer, who is generally male, will empathize with the abuser, and slant his report to favor the abuser. He will ignore what he has been taught, that the victim is most often the one who is hysterical and angry at having been attacked and side with the often calm and rational sounding architect of the situation. And the abuser has gained his first needed corner stone to further the abuse, for in the future, any calls to 911 will be met with skepticism by the police and all future reports of violence will be seen as insane acts by the actual victim.

During the booking process and his appearance for arraignment, when the victim is not present to hear what is being said to the magistrate, he will again repeat his reasons for the attack. Laying the blame on the victim. Now he has widened his circle of conspirators. Word will filter from these people to the Bailiff and on to the judge that there were "extenuating circumstances" that predicated the attack.

Now, as we all know, the key to any successful litigation is money. With money, comes the right lawyers and a venue that is considered to be the "home turf" for that lawyer. Abusers control the money, therefore, they can afford the lawyers who consider winning to be the sole measure of success, not the just application of the law.

In each court system in America, there are lawyers that are known to be the "dirty trick" lawyers. They are the ones who use often unethical and illegal means to deny the Constitutional Rights of a litigant and victim. They will look the other way, or outright encourage, the use of terror tactics against a victim. Judges and other lawyers within the local Bar Association know who these practitioners are will look the other way. In some court systems, judges will actually instruct new lawyers with "I don't care what you do in my courtroom so long as I am not investigated" leaving the avenue open for them to ply their brand of law in any manner they see fit. The idea is to win, not to be just. The abuser will seek out these lawyers, perhaps getting the name of one from a police officer or someone else in the system who just happens to be overheard talking or from another inmate in the lock up.

So now, the abuser has assembled his "dream team". The police, the dirty tricks lawyer and the complacent judge. What more could he ask for than to have swayed the system and set the victim up for further abuse? The abuser will get a slap on the wrist, be sent to Anger Management and, in some jurisdictions, have his record of abuse sealed. In Anger Management, the prep will learn new and better ways of abusing. He will learn to abuse without leaving the outward marks that would land him back in jail. He will hone his skills, through the knowledge passed on by other perpetrators attending these sessions. The things that worked for them will be shared in group in the form of "I reacted to the situation by...." You fill in the blank, as each and every one of you know the tactics, know how the pain can be caused both mentally and physically to a victim without leaving the marks or a trail of abuse.

The first thing the abuser will do after being released from jail is to widen his circle of allies. His dirty tricks lawyer has instructed him to get out in front of his victim, and being the superior liar that he is, he is only too willing to accommodate. Generally, abusers are loners, having few friends and having disassociated themselves from family. He has allowed only minimal if any contact between his victim and her family. He will suddenly become the "social butterfly" contacting people to enlist their help, always with the story of having been the victim in the situation. Neighbors that were shunned by him in the past are now become his confidants. Whispers of abuse by the victim are passed from one person to another. This serves two purposes. It provides a support system for the abuser as well as removing any hope of support for the victim.

The next step to the tried and true method of using the system to abuse is to make the victim seem insane to the system. The abuser or one of his allies will begin the relentless process of attacks that are designed to discredit. Break-ins of the home of the victim are a common means as are well placed phone calls where the abuser uses threats, such as the victim never seeing her children again. An abuser will actually enlist the help of the unwitting child, promising rewards of gifts or, if teenagers, no boundaries to live by. The abuser will reward the child for such things as removing evidence against the abuser from the victims home, lying to police or being complacent about what was witnessed in an incident. Often, no system of reward is needed. It is fear of the abuser, that places the child in the unenviable situation of having to lie. The child senses what will cause the wrath of the abuser to rise against them. If you come away from this presentation with anything, this is the one piece of information I hope you retain. The cycle of abuse is learned and continued by this one tactic alone, using the children as tools of abuse. Any person within the system who even suggests that the abuser use this tactic is guilty of nothing less than murder. (Scan the audience to see who is squirming or looks disinterested and focus your eyes on them for a split second. They are a guilty party.)

Police, having been repeatedly told that the victim is insane, will respond to such things as break-ins as a sign that the abuser is correct in his assessment of the victim. All too often, the abuser will leave something that informs the victim he was there, but at the point in time that the police are called, the victim will not know what is missing, if anything. Sometimes the victim will find veiled death threats, a picture that only the victim and her abuser knows the meaning of, a cartoon left on the computer screen, that is meant to frighten and intimidate. A tire will be slashed when her car is hidden from public view, mementos that have little or no monetary value will be missing. Reporting these incidents to the police enforce the abuser's position. And, when the victim turns to her lawyer for help, if she has one, she is told to ignore all violations of her home and person. You see, it takes two lawyers to execute a well choreographed legal Tango, and by this time, the repeated calls to the police by the victim, the well placed lies by the perpetrator, and, with the assistance of the complacent judge, her lawyer has been won over to not assist in any meaningful manner. Thus the victim is turned into the abuser and seen only as a source of possible revenue for her own lawyer who will offer little if any assistance in seeing that justice is blind, not blinded by gold. ( Pick out a person you have predetermined to be guilty and look directly at them)

During the actual litigation process, there will be a number of players that will be easily swayed by the events that have lead up to this process. GALs and CLRs are swayed by having contact with the abuser and his ever growing stable of allies, lawyers, police and judges. If the children are afraid of the abuser, they dare not say anything to these people that would endanger themselves. Social workers, mental health professionals, even medical doctors who rely on the system for income will not oppose the well built facade of the abuser and his well scripted theater of abuse.

At this point, I would like to see a show of hands. How many of you are judges? Please raise your hands. Keep your hands raised, please. How many are police officers? Keep your hands raised, please. How many of you are lawyers who represent abuse victims exclusively? Good, now if you could all stand up and look around. Do you recognize people from your own court systems in this room? Isn't it nice to know that some of the people who are not standing could, and I emphasis the word could, be manipulating you? (Pause for about 10 seconds) Thank you, you may all be seated.

How do the dirty tricks lawyers actually manipulate? First, talk is cheap, and the dirty tricks lawyer and his client never seem to run out of voice. They will take every chance to influence the judge and the opposition lawyer if there is one, the GAL and CLR, the therapist and mental health evaluator , the social worker, shelter workers and people in the Court Clerk's office. Ex parte is common and rampant in any court system. It can't be stopped unless you, the judges, choose to stop it. A few well placed words prior to the opening of court, the happened, but planned, introduction of the abuser to you prior to proceedings so that you can see how likeable this person is and to get his side, again getting out ahead of the opposition in the litigation. Tools used to put a human face on an inhuman act of violence.

During the early stages of the litigation, the dirty tricks lawyer and an abuser will go for the "all or nothing" approach to a custody question. The abuser, and his lawyer, being confident in the groundwork they have already laid, will not present a parenting plan. They will often seek to move out of the jurisdiction, often so far away from the abused, as to effectively terminate all parental rights. The abused, on the other hand will present a generous plan which will include more time with the abuser than a court would normally mandate. The judge, being the Solomon of the court, knows he cannot split a child down the middle, will have to award temporary custody to one parent or another, and this is usually to the person who already has "possession" of the child at the time of the hearing. (make the hand sign for quotes when you say the word possession). If the victim was forced to flee without the child, or if the child happens to be visiting the abuser at the time of the hearing, guess who gets the temporary custody? Yup, the abuser.

This is the beginning of the motions process. The abuser's lawyer will file motions with the court, often filing them back to back, and always asking for contempt sanctions against the victim. If the victim is unrepresented, this confuses and terrorizes her. If she is one of the fortunate ones, one of the women who was able to afford a lawyer, and motions and subpoenas are filed on her behalf, they are ignored by the dirty tricks lawyer. In the meantime, if she is Pro Se, her filings are ignored by the clerk's office or disappear all together. It never ceases to amaze me how often victims report missing filings, even whole files of proceedings that have gone missing. I can only surmise how it could happen, all of which violate state law. When she asks for a subpoena which must go through the courts for approval, the subpoena that is received for service contains errors made by the person who entered it into the system, precluding the effectiveness of that subpoena. These errors would only be obvious to a trained lawyer, thereby giving the dirty tricks lawyer a reason to quash.

The motions process will offer more ample opportunities for the dirty tricks lawyer to ply his trade. He will mail important filings to the wrong address, often transposing the actual numbers, to prevent receipt in time for rebuttal. He will refuse to accept mail from the Pro Se and then claim that it was not sent to him. He will state a date and time verbally, but put another date and time in writing, often bolding it to attract attention to the erroneous information. He will send a copy of a minor issue in a motion, with proof of mailing, and have a second copy hand served. The problem with this is that he has actually filed two separate motions with the court, one of paramount importance and the one of minor importance. He will then have proof of two separate deliveries to the victim and state that the one hand served was in reference to the major issue while the one mailed was in reference to the minor issue. Of course, he will blame all of this on the victim. She gave me the wrong address, I never got it, she was served and I have the proof.

Depositions are an extremely useful tool for the trickster. Though most states follow the rules of the Federal Courts for deposition, tricksters do not. As all lawyers know, the only time depositions should be used is when information cannot be gotten by subpoena. The dirty tricks lawyer will force deposition to make the victim face her abuser in an environment controlled by the trickster. One deposition trick will be to inform the pro se that a date and time for a deposition of his client has been set. He will send a list of questions to be asked, and state that the deposition will be limited to these questions. This offers the opportunity to pound the Pro Se with intimidation and terrorist tactics of threats. It also forces the Pro Se into setting up a second deposition of her own. Not knowing that it is not required to submit questions in advance, the Pro Se will dutifully submit the entire list of questions to the trickster, giving him time to concoct answers that would favor him. And lest the abuser make a mistake, there is nothing to worry about. The Court Reporter in attendance is one favored by the lawyer. One only need to Google the search term "Changed Transcripts" to confirm this is a common practice. The number of hits are well in excess of 7,000,000.

Proffers are useful when it comes to the dirty tricks lawyer. It is not uncommon for them to submit Proffers to the Pro Se that are never filed with the courts. These are filled with the lies that the abuser intends on in court and are designed to see which arguments are going to be used to counteract the lies in court.

Surprise witnesses are the life blood of the trickster. No subpoena has been issued to these people to appear, but they just happen to be in the area when the court date came up. Judges have a duty to curtail the use of these convenient witnesses, but seldom do, preferring to overrule objections. Often, they are nothing more than hired guns for the defense, parroting whatever the trickster wants them to say. There is often no rebuttal for their testimony, as the Pro Se or her lawyer had no time to prepare for their appearance.

Witness tampering is blatantly illegal but used by the dirty trick lawyer and his client at every turn. All that is needed is for the potential witness to be mislead with a story of the victim being the true abuser, and after all, if they testify, they would be putting the children, and perhaps themselves, in danger. Surely, anyone in their right mind would not want to testify under these circumstances, given that few people are willing to testify in the first place. If that doesn't work, there is intimidation of the witness. Most people have something in their backgrounds they would prefer no one find out. The dirty tricks lawyer is a master at using innuendo and sources like police, family and acquaintances to find that one skeleton. If that doesn't work, there is always the avenue of the witness's employer. Innuendo can be placed in letters to the employer from the lawyer stating that this or that has never been cleared.

In his bag, the dirty trick lawyer and his client rely on the assistance of Child Protective Services. If a direct call from his client does not produce the desired response, there is always the "innocent and disconnected" third party report. These reports can vary from the upper end of sexual abuse or exploitation of the child to reports that the mother is furnishing drugs to the child to such things as a child being left alone. In one case I know of, the GAL was talked into calling CPS when a teenage boy overdosed. What the GAL forgot to report was that the 15 year old had arrived from his father's home with a plastic bag full of pills, and when the mother discovered them, he grabbed them and downed them in an attempt to get rid of the evidence. The same mother was accused of leaving the than 16 year old alone for two hours by the same GAL. Again the GAL left out a very important fact. The child was at the home of a friend.

Court orders are often altered to reflect what the attorney and abuser wants. One mother, while living here in Colorado heard a knock on her door one day. The father, who had never once exercised his visitation, had moved five years previously to Washington state. He went to the local Colorado police with an altered court order for full custody of the son, than 7 years old. No one questioned the validity of the order, in fact, the police were only too willing to help him in removing the child from the mother. She never saw her son again. She was able to locate him last year in a suburb of Seattle, but now 20, he has had it drilled into his head that she wanted nothing to do with him and had willing given him up.

If all else fails, there is always the use of Parental Alienation to fall back on. Dr. Richard Gardner, using no identifiable research and much to the consternation of all recognized authorities, first placed this Syndrome in the minds of the courts to discredit mothers and to help men save on alimony and child support payments. We are all familiar with the theory that states that the mother is toxic to the relationship between the father and his children and that the only true cure for this toxicity is to severely limit visitation or to remove it all together. Abusers and their attorneys love to use PAS. It is one of the most effective forms of abuse of the victim.

Through all the court abuse, and I have only touched on some of the verifiable things that women suffer in the courtroom, there is a continued onslaught from the abuser. Stalking, break-ins, destruction of property and threats of further harm to the victim are normal. Checks for alimony or child support that are never received are also widely reported. Harassment is an ongoing problem to the victim. Planting seeds of doubt of a mother's love for her child in the child's mind, any avenue an abuser can think of will be used.

All of this for one objective, to carry on the abuse. And, the players in the courtroom are all aiders and abettors to that abuse, whether they realize it or not. The crimes we allow these people to get away with are crimes that are punishable by law, and by each and every one of you allowing them to be predicated on victims of violence, you are taking part in those crimes.

Now, as one last thing, I would like some of you to take part in a fun little exercise to reinforce some of what you have heard here today. I would ask that every judge in the audience stand up and glace around the room. I want you to pick out a person here that you do not know and walk over to them and without saying a word, I want you to grasp their hand and shake it. (Wait for them to do this)

Now, again without giving this person your name, I want you to whisper in their ear the year, color and make and model of the car your closest loved one drives. Now, I want you, without giving the city or town you live in, to tell them the street address of that person. Good. You have just given someone who may be a trickster lawyer or an abuser all the information they need. You have just put your loved one in danger, possibly signing that their death warrant. Think about it and try to have a nice day.

Nov 2009 DV Blog Carnival- How does DV effect children - anonymiss

2009-10-08T15:05:00.001-05:00

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Nov 2009 DV Blog Carnival- How does DV effect children

Posted October 8, 2009

The Domestic Violence Blog Carnival that we set up is now accepting article submissions for the edition that will be posted on November 2nd 2009.

This editions theme is The Effects of Domestic Violence on Children. To submit an article please visit the submission page: http://blogcarnival.com/bc/submit_8381.html. The November edition will be hosted here at Anonymiss.

To view last months edition please visit the UAADV News Blog Domestic Violence Blog Carnival October 2009

If you have a suggestion for an upcoming theme or would like to host the blog carnival for an upcoming month, please send an email to: contactanonymiss@gmail.com with your suggestoins.

Nov 2009 DV Blog Carnival- How does DV effect children - anonymiss

2009-10-06T11:11:00.001-05:00

I don't even need to explain this one!

2009-10-05T17:03:00.000-05:00

The Husband Store

2009-10-05T10:14:00.002-05:00

A store that sells husbands has just opened where a woman
may go to choose a husband from among many men. The
store is composed of 6 floors, and the men increase in positive
attributes as the shopper ascends the flights.

There is, however, a catch. As you open the door to any floor you may
choose a man from that floor, but if you go up a floor, you cannot go
back down except to exit the building.

So a woman goes to the shopping center to find a husband.

On the first floor the sign on the door reads:

Floor 1 - These men have jobs.
The woman reads the sign and says to herself, "Well, that's better
than my last boyfriend, but I wonder what's further up?"

So up she goes.

The second floor sign reads:

Floor 2 - These men have jobs and love kids.
The woman remarks to herself, "That's great, but I wonder what's
further up?" And up she goes again.

The third floor sign reads:

Floor 3 - These men have jobs, love kids and are extremely good
looking. "Hmm, better" she says. "But I wonder what's upstairs?"

The fourth floor sign reads:

Floor 4 - These men have jobs, love kids, are extremely good looking
and help with the housework. "Wow!" exclaims the woman, "very
tempting. BUT, there must be more further up!" And again she heads up
another flight.

The fifth floor sign reads:

Floor 5 - These men have jobs, love kids, are extremely good looking,
help with the housework and have a strong romantic streak. "Oh, mercy
me! But just think... what must be awaiting me further on?" So up to
the sixth floor she goes.

The sixth floor sign reads:

Floor 6 - You a re visitor 3,456,789,012 to this floor. There are no
men on this floor. This floor exists solely as proof that women are
impossible to please. Thank you for shopping at The Husband Store and
have a nice day

UPDATE: If it is a crime, report it as such!

2009-09-25T17:02:00.000-05:00

After making my post last night, I saw this today as I went through my Google Reader feed. It is a differnt take on the reporting crimes as crimes, has more detailed information and is even backed up with some research...which I said I wasn't going to do.

Maybe great minds do think alike sometimes! LOL! As our articles were posted on about the same day.

http://justice4mothers.wordpress.com/2009/09/24/gail-lakritz-the-war-on-women/

If it is a crime, then report it as such!

2009-09-25T00:52:00.001-05:00

There is a problem in America, no actually it is a world wide problem. I am talking about the Family Court Systems and their various members who court order child abuse, abductions, and murders all in the name of justice being served.

This is something that has been getting to me for quite some time now and I have been mulling over how best to approach this situation from the standpoint of an ordinary person with no great reach beyond just a few people. I have decided to just write my thoughts out as they are and to for go the listing of sources and trying to back myself up.

Feel free to take my word for it or do the research on your own. I have done the research and been involved in following cases of domestic violence and child abuse for years. I know what I have experienced and what I have personally witnessed others go through. I have read tons of court documents involved in cases being heard in Family Courts, divulging any of that here would put those that have shared these at great risk.

The main point I’d like to make is this: If a crime has been committed, then report it as such. Along with that you have to report it to the proper authorities and that in my opinion is law enforcement; not a Family Court, not Child Protective Services (CPS), not Department of Human Services (DHS). None of these people can really help you and many do more harm than good.

Now, I am not trying to put any of them out of a job, or even saying that they are all bad. You have to keep in mind that in far too many instances the workers in CPS are overworked and underpaid. They initially went into the field of social work to try and make a difference and many become numbed from the atrocities that they wade through on a daily basis. Not all of these workers are bad, nor all of them good.

Reporting a crime at the time it is happening or shortly there after is usually the best route to take in protecting your children and yourself. Most of what I am going to say here applies more to domestic violence than to child abuse but they are one in the same as far as I am concerned. Both are terroristic power and control acts committed by someone that is in a position of trust to the victim.

If you are in a domestic violence situation and are facing divorce proceedings, do not rely on getting an order of protection signed by a Family Court judge. In most cases these are not worded in such a way that the violator can be arrested and the cops are not at liberty to protect you if your order isn’t worded right. Many lawyers do not even know, until it is too late the correct wording to use.

Most often what happens when there is a violation of an order of protection that has been issued in Family Court, the only recourse a victim has is to request a Contempt Hearing and tell the judge that the order was violated. Which puts the burden of proof on the victim. So, save yourself all of this hassle and just get a criminal restraining order.

I have been told many times that a victim was refused the opportunity to file for a criminal restraining order because the situation was of a family nature and thus must be heard in the Family Court. While on the surface this may sound correct it is not. Most states (I actually believe all do now) have criminal laws regarding domestic violence. Press charges. Let me repeat that, PRESS CHARGES! Once you have pressed charges ask for the restraining order. Then if it is necessary ask that any pending case hearings in the Family Court be put on hold pending the outcome of the criminal case.

When you file charges you will more than likely to be asked at some point for any evidence that a crime has been committed, so make sure you are prepared for that. Have pictures to show, witnesses to write statements anything that can prove you were assaulted. Be prepared to testify in court! You can contact the local DDV Agency for help in preparing yourself. They can also support you through this and help to minimize your fears as the court date approaches.

There is so much more involved in this that in order to cover every nuance I’d end up writing a book. There are several places online and in your local area where you can gain information about this process. The best one that I have found on line thus far is WomensLaw.org, do your research and be prepared.

If however, you have already gotten away from an abuser and are now facing him in Family Court for divorce proceedings and he is still abusing you, stalking you, or harassing you; you can still apply what I have said above. If the abuse was too long ago or you don’t have proof and can not file charges for it (or are told by the police that you can’t) , go to your local DV Agency and request help on how to proceed.

Family Court judges can not determine which one of you are telling the truth, and remember abusers are manipulative.

Lets move on to child abuse allegations after separation and/or divorce where custody is still being looked at. Even though you know your child is in danger, trying to prove that in Family Court is a waste of your time.

Calling CPS should be reserved for when there is a suspicion of child abuse, neglect, maltreatment, molestation, etc. Key word here being suspicion. It is the job of the case worker to investigate. These case workers have no power to arrest, the most they can do is call the cops once they are finished with their investigation. In most sates they have a very short amount of time to determine if that call should be made and children removed from a home.

Remember this: Abusers are manipulative. If an abuser was able manipulate their current victim into a relationship, they can definitely fool someone that doesn’t live with them and quite possibly has only met with them for a few minutes to a few hours!

If you know that you child is being abused, then call the cops. Tell your child to call the cops. Dial 911! Do not waste time with calling anyone else, do not waste time with going to a Family Court Hearing and convincing a judge that the child is being abused. Do not even waste your time trying to convince a Family Court judge that you were abused by this person. An abuser has the ability to manipulate the court officers just as easily as they can the CPS workers; or anyone else for that matter.

Yes there are a list of mandated reporters, however, even telling them will probably get you no where; as the only recourse they have is to call CPS since they are not a direct witness of the abuse.

If your child tells you anything at all, do not question them further. Doing so will probably only get you accused of prompting them and you could even loose custody.

If you have already lost custody and you know there is abuse going on, educate and empower your child. Tell them about 911. Tell them about calling the cops. Yes, it will be hard for them; but I dare to say not as hard as what they are already going through.

The reason I suggest calling the cops for everything, is that quite frankly they are the only ones that can arrest someone right then and there. Cops are also trained in a different type of investigative skills than social workers and Family Court officials. They are trained to deal with investigating crimes, and after all domestic violence, child abuse and molestation ARE crimes. By law they can be more intrusive with their investigation and can uncover evidence that social workers are not allowed to even look for.

I will agree that not all cops are good; as with any profession there are bad and good mixed. We do hear far more about the bad people in all professions than we do the good ones which taints our opinions of all in that certain field. I myself as a victim of domestic violence years ago was let down by the police on more than one occasion. Each time I was in the hospital from a beating received at the hands of my abuser. I actually had a cop tell me then that there was no way for me to prove who beat me up because my abuser said he wasn’t home when it happened. End of case.

But, I can tell you this...laws have changed since then, drastically! I can also tell you that if I were to ever find myself in another abusive relationship I would not hesitate to call the cops again, even after being failed by them in the past.

Please feel free to leave comments below on what I have said. If you are in a situation and need help in finding resources feel free to email me at cancermoonwolf@gmail.com I will not reply to those that email me to argue or even to debate, we can to that here through our public comments. I will only answer those that are seriously in need of help in locating resources that will help them!

If I had checks I'd try this....

2009-09-23T20:38:00.000-05:00

DV Survivor Speaks out

2009-09-23T19:26:00.001-05:00

All women and teen girls need to watch this short news clip! Please pass on to any female you know. With Domestic Violence Awareness Month right around the corner this is the perfect time to share this story with all that you know.

A North Idaho woman, Rose Turner, nearly killed in a shootout with her estranged husband, Rick Turner, is now speaking out to about her personal experience with domestic violence as a warning to others.

Interesting...

2009-09-23T16:00:00.001-05:00

I think this could be really useful as many others have said and yet I also feel that this could be a spammers playground just waiting to happen! I plan to use it though and play with it, put the word out about it and see where it goes. I'm all about new things with technology and checking out new gadgets and things of this nature. It will either work or it won't and then we are all still moving forward on to the next new thing.

in reference to:

"Policy"
- Google Sidewiki (view on Google Sidewiki)

If your a mom, come join us!!

2009-09-22T23:22:00.001-05:00

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Child bearer needed...

2009-09-17T12:52:00.000-05:00

My sister is pregnant and due next month, so she is of course shopping for baby stuff anywhere she can find something affordable. She just sent me this following email....I wanted to share it here, because I thought it was funny!! And, this isn't just one of those fake internet jokes, it is real; which to me is what makes it even funnier! It's funny when typos/spelling errors end up changing the entire meaning of something!

Okay, so I’m shopping Craigs List to get some baby things and I come across this post and just HAD to open it to see what they REALLY wanted….

Subject:
Child Bearer Wanted
Inside the post said:

Want door way bearer. Needed to keep a pet out of certain areas. Please call (then gave phone number).

____________

I have to admit I was wondering what kind of person would post an ad in the kids/baby section for a child bearer…I mean really, that sounds more like it should be in the personals LOL.

Two sheds on side of property...

2009-09-13T22:28:00.001-05:00

These two are both along the side of the property but because the house sits sideways on the property the sheds are actually sorta behind the house....

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View from front porch

2009-09-13T22:27:00.001-05:00

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View from front porch looking up the hill

2009-09-13T22:26:00.001-05:00

You can barely see the old hay barn up there....

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Front of house

2009-09-13T22:12:00.001-05:00

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View of front of property...

2009-09-13T22:08:00.001-05:00

This is standing at the side of the house looking towards the road...yep there is a road down there! LOL!

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View from old hay barn....

2009-09-13T22:02:00.001-05:00

This is looking down the hill at the house from the old hay barn

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Better view from old hay barn

2009-09-13T21:59:00.001-05:00

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What NOT to say to an Non-Custodial Mother

2009-08-30T10:45:00.000-05:00

This is based on the non-custodial mother (NCM) being non-custodial due to a custody battle with the child’s father or other family member. This is not for those that are removed by Child Protective Services or another agency of the sort. The following are examples of things that you should not ever say to a protective mother who has lost her kids (or is fighting to protect them) through the court to her abuser or even worse to the abuser of the child.

So, please keep this in mind as you read what NCM’s have had others say to them, why it is the wrong thing to say. I have collected and added direct quotes from some NCM’s that for safety reasons are not named. Imagine how you would feel after losing your kids to an abuser if these things were said to you.

I have written this article from the perspective of a life coach not only of NCM’s, but of abuse victims and advocates as well. I noticed that there was a common thread of victims telling me what people were saying to them; as well as advocates saying that they had said something and couldn’t understand the reaction they received. This is intended to be a brief overview for advocates, friends and family; as well as to show NCM’s everywhere that they are NOT alone or crazy!

Your kids will come back to you. The first thing that goes through a mothers mind when this is said to her is “What when they are 18, and no longer know where I am?” Because until then the child can not decide (in most states) and even if they could they are basically being held hostage by an abuser. So, NO, the kid will not just magically reappear or ‘come back’. Do not say things that could sound patronizing or even promising to a mother who is in fear for her children, it is never taken the way you may mean it. Along these same lines are some other similar things that moms have been told:

Your child will be 18 years old, in 8 years, then you can see them. (What loving parent wants to wait that long to see their child? Especially when that child is being abused or mistreated.)
The abusive father will give the child back to you as soon as they are a teenager. (Not only is this not true, but if you can admit that he is abusive then you must also admit that he should not be raising the child; and therefore rather than tell the mother to just sit around and wait, you should provide help in getting the child away from the abuser.)
You'll get your kids back (How do you know she will get her kids back, when will this happen, etc. These are the things the mom thinks when this is said; so if you can’t answer those questions then don’t make the statement.)

You must not be telling me the whole story There are mothers all over this country ( and others) that have lost or are loosing custody of their children to abusive fathers. Non-abusive fathers do not fight to take their kids away from mothers that have done nothing wrong to the children or put them at risk in some way. Abusers are very good at manipulation and control, they accuse their victims of the very same things they have done. Protective mothers are emotional about their kids being in danger; as all good parents are. Abusers can remain calm, cool and collected throughout the custody battle because they really just do not care about anyone but themselves; therefore they do not get emotional. Rarely will they ever show their abusive side to others...only their victims get to see that. Many victims of domestic violence are not believed for these reasons. So one of the worst things you can do is to blame the victim by showing your disbelief in the situation in this way. Other comments similar to this that should also be avoided are:

He couldn't have been all that bad, the court would NEVER give children to a child molester or an abuser (This, sadly, is just not the case for the reasons that I described above)
If the mistreatment was really so bad your child would be complaining more, and be trying to get out herself. (Many adult victims can not get out of abusive situations, what would make anyone think that a child could do any better?)
I don't really believe _________, this just sounds so unbelievable, it can not be true. (No matter what that blank is filled in with, it is just cruel to say this to a mother in this type of situation.)

The following are just heartless and cruel when you think of them in this context. How would any sane, protective parent feel if told they must let their child live with a pedophile or an abuser? Many mothers are threatened by jail if they continue to make ‘false’ reports. Once jailed they know there is absolutely nothing they can do to help their children.

You'll get through this (How?)
Just don't think about it and move on (How does one forget about a child that is being abused and just move on?)
Get over it (How?)
Think of your other two kids, focus on them
You have to forget this child, & move on with your life

Religious references Not all religious references to the situation are unwelcomed. Offering to pray with or for a mother and her children are usually taken as they are meant; with kindness. How please do not say the following unless you are prepared right then and there to get out the religious text I say this as all people are not Christian and therefore not everyone uses a Bible to back up the statements) where this can be found; show and explain it. Even then the pain and heartache that the mother are going through may cloud her being receptive to turning to religion as she has done in the past for other matters.

God never gives you more than you can handle
You just have to pray harder, God will listen then
You must have strayed, God doesn’t let this type of thing happen to people who believe in him
God is testing you

Judicial References Making statements or giving advice that are illegal are first off just bad practice, do not tell a mom to just ‘go get her kids’; without first knowing what you are talking about. Many people in this country (and others) are very blinded to what really happens in family court rooms, until it happens to them. Sometimes it is the money involved (in various ways), sometimes it is the fact that the abuser is manipulating the court officers; but regardless of the reason, it is happening. Saying things like the following are counter-productive for a mother in a custody battle (or who has already lost custody) to hear and contemplate.

Just get the judge removed or change the venue (Not as easy as it sounds, if you are going to say this; back it up with a plan and some help in doing so. This can happen is some cases but not many)
You can't fight the system (This is basically telling the mom to forget and let it go. Very discouraging and harmful!)
Judges and Lawyers are honest, they take an oath OR What did you do to have the judge dislike you? (Judges and Lawyers are people just like the rest of us and can be bought and paid for as well as manipulated by abusers)
They don't deny people their civil rights in America OR Corruption doesn't exist in America, Russia, yes, America, no (This is a very dangerous and naive assumption to make)
Court records don't just disappear. Are you sure you filed them (Again, don’t blame the victim and further the abuse by helping her abuser make her think she is crazy and incompetent. As important as her kids are; NO she didn’t forget to file anything!)
The courts write up the decision, not lawyers (Decisions are made between lawyers all the time outside the courtroom, all the Judge does is then sign whatever they say has been agreed upon.)
GALs are there to protect the children (Again, they are also people. Yes, it is their job to protect children but they too can be manipulated by an abuser.)
Women say they or their children are being abused so they will win in court. They are all false accusers (This happens in so few cases that it isn’t worth going into.)
You don't know how to pick a lawyer: if you wore more makeup when you initially meet with your lawyer, maybe they would decide to take the case. (Totally irrelevant!)

Quotes from moms who have experienced first hand some of the things discussed above:

A co-worker looked me in the eyes and said, "Wow. My ex-wife had to majorly fuck up for me to get custody. What did you do to lose?" Then, the day I lost my kids, my fiancé said: "Set a date today. Now that you don't have kids anymore, you have no excuse to put it off." "You can move in immediately, and now we can live anywhere we want because you don't have your kids holding us back anymore."~~A mom, after loosing custody to an abuser.

I loved (sarcasm) when people would say - well you married him. Or even better - why didn't you get the house? I think the biggest is you must have done something wrong. I love the ones who say to me now that I should just not let her go to her dads. Like yeah okay that would be the fastest way for me to lose custody. ~~Mz P

There are so many things that could be added here! Please leave comments on this article to help others understand!

Written By: Mary Morgan. I also gave permission for this article to be posted on Obstreperous Expressions.

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2009-08-25T14:10:00.000-05:00

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Violence UnSilenced

2009-08-22T15:07:00.000-05:00

Do you feel like you are the only one in your situation?

Do you want to share your story (even anonymously)?

Are you a blogger that that writes/read domestic violence pieces?

If any of these apply to you then you should check out: Violence UnSilenced where you can read stories of survivors, share your own story, or take the pledge!

Crazy Making Legal-Psychiatric Abuse: Signs and Prevention

2009-08-21T14:56:00.001-05:00

Interesting..... helpful!

From the Desk of Dr. Jeanne King, Ph.D.
Friday August 21, 2009

Dear Battered One,

If you think the abuse is over because you want it to
be, wake up and smell the crazy-making brewing.

Now we know this sounds harsh. Our goal is to
help you deal with the realities of being in and
leaving an abusive relationship.

The nature of the beast is to make you wrong,
to save face, to discredit you, to silence you...
all the while lo...

Read More: Crazy Making Legal-Psychiatric Abuse: Signs and Prevention

Now that’s MY kinda camping!!

2009-08-18T09:54:00.000-05:00

Wish there was somewhere near enough for me to take a weekend ‘away’ for $19! I can sleep in a sleeping bag and bring my own tp, especially if it is inside and they have a SPA!!!!!

California resort offers $19 'survivor' package

By Laura Isensee

SAN DIEGO (Reuters) - For their one-and-only family getaway this year, the Billingtons checked in to an upscale San Diego resort on Sunday with many of the usual vacation accessories -- bathing suits, board games and golf clubs.

But they also brought flashlights, sleeping bags and an inflatable mattress because the pool-side room they booked for just $19 comes with a tent where the beds normally would be. They even had to pack their own toilet paper.

While many of Southern California's luxury hotels are battling a severe slump in business by offering extra services and more amenities, the Rancho Bernardo Inn is luring guests with the exact opposite -- no frills and barely any basics.

Called the "Survivor Package," the hotel's deeply discounted promotion lets patrons trim its standard $219-per-night rate on a sliding scale of deprivation, lowering charges with each amenity stripped from the room.

The most basic version: a room for $19 with no bed, toilet paper, towels, air-conditioning or "honor bar," and only a single light bulb in the bathroom for safety. The next level up adds in a bed -- sans sheets -- for $39 a night. For a bed plus toiletries and toilet paper, the rate is $59.

Maureen Carew, assistant general manager of the four-star inn, called the promotion "clever marketing in a downtime."

THRIFTY VACATIONS

Herman Billington, 39, a personal trainer who owns his own business, says it's the only vacation he, his wife and their two sons, aged 9 and 10, plan to take this year as they concentrate on "keeping it lean."

"The boys get to feel like they're camping, and I get to go to the spa," said their mother, Erica Billington, 37.

Luxury hotels and resorts have fallen on hard times during the recession, as corporate travel planners shy away from lavish spending and consumers plan thrifty, if any, vacations.

Across the industry, occupancy rates have dropped about 10 percent Carew said. The slump has pushed room rates down, with many of California's more luxurious properties throwing in a breakfast, a round of golf or extra night's stay for free.

The outlook for the rest of 2009 is bleak, according to Smith Travel Research, which predicts that U.S. hotel revenue per available room will fall 17 percent and demand will drop 5.5 percent by the end of the year.

Carew said Rancho Bernardo's promotion drew more than 420 reservations, including 240 bookings at the $19 rate and 116 at the $39 rate.

Like the Billingtons, mortgage banker Brian Sciutto, 36, is watching his pennies. His Sunday night stay at the hotel is his first getaway in two years, though he brought his iPhone and mail from home to keep busy.

"I feel like I'm on vacation but I'm not," Sciutto said as he enjoyed the cool breeze blowing in from the golf course outside. "I feel like I'm being spoiled for 19 bucks."

(Reporting by Laura Isensee, editing by Steve Gorman and Sandra Maler)

Original: California resort offers $19 'survivor' package | Oddly Enough | Reuters

Getting going...again

2009-08-07T09:40:00.000-05:00

Well, yet again all of my best laid plans (from months ago) went WAY out the window and I have not been updating my blog as I really wanted to...well other than a few pics here and there. I discovered mobile blogging and almost got carried away.

I have been spending some time over the last few weeks crocheting and getting caught up on some of my projects that I wanted to get finished....but then a couple new projects popped up and well, I still haven't finished the old ones yet! I joined ravelry.com (my profile there is: mary1293 ) and today decided to start getting things set up there. I am liking it so far! Although the thought of entering my ENTIRE stash is daunting to say the least! It's going to be fun though, get to go through all my yarn and plan and play! The first project entered in as finished is the baby afghan that I made for my sister (due in Oct).....but no pictures cause I don't want her peeking.

I think I am going to take next week and get my computer organized as well as getting my stash entered into the computer.....and well maybe it will get done in a couple years...LOL! I see this as another excuse to do some mobile blogging...well picture blogging...after all a picture is worth a thousands words, right?!? I wish now that I would have taken pics of my craft room before and after I organized it...well it is still a work in progress so I may just do that anyway, while going through my stash.

I'm going to go through all of my social profiles and networking sites and get those updated......some of them are just going to get deleted, so my list here will get smaller and smaller. Ya know, I need to also get my pictures organized. I have thousands of pictures that have no names, that I have just put onto the computer in a folder somewhere to be dealt with later just to empty the memory card on the camera....that needs some attention as well! I am going to have to decide the best way and place to organize my online pics.....I have stuff sooooo scattered!

I thought demon dogs had red eyes not green

2009-07-29T08:53:00.000-05:00

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Everybody got haircuts 2day

2009-07-28T16:32:00.000-05:00

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Demon dog just got a haircut

2009-07-28T16:26:00.001-05:00

...now she fits into her shirt!!

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Blog's gettin' a make-over

2009-05-17T22:01:00.001-05:00

Over the next few days things will be moving around and some things will be added...some things will disappear, never to return. I am trying get this updated as I have found some things that I want to put on here and many things here are outdated anyway...so into the future we go!

HELP!! Me...

2009-05-11T08:59:00.001-05:00

Help me, it's lookin' at me!!

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Felipe thinks he owns the place....

2009-05-02T00:33:00.000-05:00

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...And I thought I was havin' a bad day!!

2009-04-23T15:48:00.001-05:00

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Good thing I decided not to put anything on this shelf yet!

2009-04-21T01:16:00.000-05:00

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They r all mine and nobody else gets one!

2009-04-19T10:03:00.001-05:00

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Can u find the real toy in this pic?

2009-04-02T20:13:00.000-05:00

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a book for kids who have been molested or sexually abused (or well for the parents....just read the blog entry)

2009-03-24T11:20:00.001-05:00

Please feel free to share this far and wide....this may help some of you with your kids that have had to endure sexual abuse. Please read it your self first before having any kids read it....as I have not read the book!! But, wanted to pass along the info asap...rather than you having to wait for me to afford the book then get and read it! there is a preview on the site...I am mobile though and so don't have the ability to read it.....Link at bottom of paragraph...well if it comes through....if not google the name of the book and the authors name together.

".....A Child's Heart Speaks is a heart breaking and compelling true story of two children who survived severe sexual abuse from a juvenile perpetrator—their older half brother. The reader gains a true glimpse into the personality, and tactics used by juveniles and adults to manipulate children into silence. The story serves as a call to action for all adults who care about children. The author, Claire Silva also incorporates national interviews with adult survivors of childhood sexual abuse. Through their stories, the reader is able to understand some of the mental, physical, emotional and spiritual struggles survivors go through, and what helps survivors heal......."

http://www.authorhouse.com/BookStore/ItemDetail.aspx?bookid=41666

Testing mobile blogging

2009-03-12T23:43:00.001-05:00

That's my big fluffy baby, Damara!

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Safe & Secure Domestic Violence Social Network

2009-02-04T15:08:00.001-06:00

A new social network just for domestic violence victims, survivors and advocates! This network is just getting started but offers the same features as other social networks, with the the only difference being that ALL members of the network are screened, making this a safe environment for victims, survivors and advocates alike to gain information and resources, share with each other, and support each other through peer-based support groups and forums.

Visit United Angels Against Domestic Violence

Teen Dating Violence Awareness and Prevention Week - Feb 2 - 6, 2009

2009-02-01T09:56:00.001-06:00

February 2 - 6 is National Teen Dating Violence Awareness and
Prevention Week for 2009. In 2006, Congress passed legislation that
the first week in February would be designated to focus on this
important issue facing our teens. Less than one week after its first
observance, Jennifer Ann Crecente - a high school honors student, was
murdered by her ex-boyfriend. Jennifer Ann’s group is dedicated to her memory.

For ideas on what you can do to promote awareness please visit their
website:
http://jenniferann.org/national-teen-dating-violence-awareness-and-prevention-week.htm

Thank you for your interest and support of efforts to STOP Teen
Dating Violence!

"Jennifer Ann's Group" - Teen Dating Violence Awareness and Prevention Week - Feb 2 - 6, 2009

Mean Moms and Grandmas and even Dad

2009-01-30T11:20:00.001-06:00

This is one of those things going around in email repeatedly for years….however I felt it would be ok to post on my blog….

Someday when my children are old enough to understand the logic that motivates a parent, I will tell them, as my Mean ole Mom told me:

I loved you enough . .. ..

to ask where you were going, with whom,
   and what time you would be home.
   I loved you enough to be silent and let you
discover that your new best friend was a creep.

I loved you enough to stand over you for two hours while you cleaned your room, a job that should have taken 15 minutes.

I loved you enough to let you see anger,
disappointment, and tears in my eyes. Children must learn that their parents aren't perfect.
I loved you enough to let you assume the
responsibility for your actions even when the
penalties were so harsh they almost broke my heart.
   But most of all, I loved you enough . . to say
   NO when I knew you would hate me for it.
   Those were the most difficult battles of all. I'm
glad I won them, because in the end you won, too.

And someday when your children are old enough to understand the logic that motivates parents, you will tell them.
   Was your Mom mean? I know mine was.. We had the meanest mother in the whole world!

While other kids ate candy for breakfast, we had to have cereal, eggs, and toast.

When others had Pepsi and Twinkies for lunchwe had sandwiches.

And you can guess our mother fixed us a dinner that was
different from what other kids had, too.
   Mother insisted on knowing where we were at all
   times. You'd think we were convicts in a prison. She
   had to know who our friends were, and what we were
   doing with them. She insisted that if we said we
   would be gone for an hour, we would be gone for an hour or less.
   We were ashamed to admit it, but she had the nerve
   to break the Child Labor Laws by making us work. We had to wash the dishes, make the beds, learn to cook, vacuum the floor, do laundry, empty the trash
   and all sorts of cruel jobs. I think she would lie
   awake at night thinking of more things for us to do.

She always insisted we get up on Sundays to go to Sunday School and Church. We could not sleep in and rest like the other kids did, not even for an hour. Then instead of watching TV on Sunday evening, we were back in Church.
   She always insisted on us telling the truth, the
   whole truth, and nothing but the truth. By the time
   we were teenagers, she could read our minds and had
   eyes in the back of her head. Then, life was really tough!
Mother wouldn't let our friends just honk the horn
when they drove up. They had to come up to the door
so she could meet them. While everyone else could
date when they were 12 or 13, we had to wait until we were 16 .
   Because of our mother we missed out on lots of
things other kids experienced. None of us have ever
been caught shoplifting, vandalizing other's
property or ever arrested for any crime. It was all her fault.
Now that we have left home, we are all educated, honest adults.

We are doing our best to be mean parents just like Mom was.
   I think that is what's wrong with the world today.
   It just doesn't have enough mean moms!
PASS THIS ON TO ALL THE MEAN MOTHERS YOU KNOW.
(And Their Kids!),

Randomness does NOT equal Pointless...or does it?

2009-01-27T12:15:00.000-06:00

The post script on this one needs to go right up front…or would that then be called the pre-script? For any of my clients or those that I am helping through UAADV Groups or in other areas….you may not want to read this as it is NOT intended towards any of you in any way. This is just my own inner ramblings that I have to get out before my head explodes! I LOVE working with ya’ll and do not begrudge one single minute that I spend helping any of you to live happy and healthy!

My randomness is not just pointless, although serendipitous at times to some extent....I know this bugs the daylights out of many of those around me. However, there is usually a point to my ramblings and the hodge-podge of what appears to be totally unrelated stuff. There is a common theme to everything and it is LIFE...and living it as well and as healthy and happy as one can. Why should I cower to those that I don't deem worthy of breathing the same air I do? I shouldn't and well quit frankly I don't (and no one else should either for that matter!), on the other hand they shouldn't cower to me either. Why do most people always see things in that manner? That one person always has to be 'in charge', why can't we agree to disagree and move on without walking all over each other, or trying to?

I find myself so very often totally and inexplicably incapable of telling others how I really feel about them. Good or bad....I am often so very indifferent to those around me that I have even started to agree with my closest friends that I am completely void of empathy, and please do not confuse that with a lack of compassion for others...as those are two totally different things and would need a whole different post for that! I just tend to believe that our actions towards others speak WAY louder than our words do. I realize that I am somewhat alone in that way of thinking and well I quite frankly don’t care. However, certain actions are screaming at me at the moment and well I am about to start screaming back….

Why in the world then am I in such a fear of telling others what I really think of them? I am doing some deep deep searching on this one. Do I still need the validation? I really don’t consciously think that I do, but what is my subconscious telling me? Well yep don’t think that is it. so then what is it? Am I still caught up in the whole thought process of …..of what? At this point I rather think that I need to ‘eschew obfuscation, espouse elucidation’ in my relationships….and yep I mean all of them….

I try to keep my thoughts and feelings to my self to the point that no one including me knows what in the world I am thinking or feeling at any given time about any given thing, because I have for too long put others thought and feelings before my own. Thus, the reason of why I am thinking in the terms above….I guess that little bit of dry humor is lost on most. It is actually the irony of the phrase that I like! And, yes for all of you out there that are so quick to jump in and demean others with your superior knowledge….I do know that phrase is most often used in regards to learning to write well….something which as you can see eludes me at the moment. However, in terms of my dealing with others that fits perfectly as this time, because that is exactly what I need to start do: ‘avoid confusion, adopt clarity’.

I am sick to death of people that run around in the peripheral of other peoples lives trying to suck them into their drama. If you have that much time on your hands, write a movie with all your own drama ( or at the very least a book, make some money with it!) and leave me (and others) out of it! At the same time, please people….stop trying to suck me dry. I have a life, I am trying to live it, it may not be perfect but it is MINE!!

Let’s talk about playing the sympathy card for a moment…..not a good idea! Ya know what I have issues also, as does just about everyone else I know…so WHY would anyone think that another person would put their entire freakin’ life on hold for someone else’s BS? Could someone throw me a rope here because I think I am drowning in a cesspool of humanity.

There are a hand full of people that I call my friends that at this time are actually NOT trying to just take something from me….including my sanity what little bit of that I seem to have maintained. But then again, isn’t that what friends are for, well yep or so you’d think. How bout those times when you need something and POOF no one is there. Ya know what I’m talking about….we all have gone through this at one time or another. Well I am putting an end to it now. I will go back to doing what I do best….taking care of me and mine and everyone else can take care of them and theirs, or take a flying leap for all I care at this point!

Now don’t get me wrong there are those out there that I still care about and do still want to have in my life…the rest are getting cut from the team! There are even those out there that have no clue how I feel about them, in so many words but I can only hope that as I said before….that my actions are speaking louder than words; both the good and the bad. Am I about to turn into a selfish bitch…well no, I’m not in heat for one thing and there are those out there that are already thinking that I am now, so my actions from here forward may just prove them right….but more than likely not!

So was there a point to all of this? Well, take it for what you got out of it….since it is generally socially unacceptable to scream at others to ‘STOP trying to act like you know me when you actually have no clue of who I am or what I am thinking, STOP trying to make me think you have any clue of what I have been through, and while you are at it ya know what…just stop!’ And, yep I think all of this will end up being pointless!

Ok, so I got behind....

2009-01-10T14:21:00.000-06:00

....I am back online more often now, but still trying to get caught up with everything. I am still way behind on most of my classes but getting those caught up, finally!

Had some computer and internet issues on and off over the past two weeks which also slowed me down.....but I have all that fixed now (well at least it is working today!).

Don't forget to share my website and blog with those you think could benefit from reading through them:

http://tailoredlifecoaching.com

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Hope all are having a good year so far....

Why Purple??

2008-09-22T09:00:00.000-05:00

Each year for October I dye my hair purple. I am always asked why purple, and my answer always is: because it is the awareness color for domestic violence and this is domestic violence awareness month.

Last year I had one person ask me, "Why is purple the awareness color for domestic violence". I had no complete or even half way answer for that, other than it just is.

So this year I decided to find out so that if someone asks me again, I can tell them.

I could not find a definite answer to this. However, there were bits and pieces of the same story that I did keep running into so that is what I decided to piece together. This may not be the absolute real reason the color purple was chosen, but it is the most accepted story.

Lisa Bianco was a woman from the Midwest in the 1980s who left her abusive relationship. She then began working in battered women’s program in her community. Although her batterer had been sent to jail, he obtained a temporary furlough.

During this release, he crossed state lines, went to her home and killed her in the street in front of her neighbors.

After her murder, her friends and family wanted to remember the life and work of this woman and chose to wear her favorite color in her honor - the color purple.

copied from: http://www.safeplace.org/site/PageServer?pagename=DVAM

Many states have recognized the purple ribbons in proclamations which memorialize National DV Awareness Month as October.

Many think that the purple ribbons are to show support for the survivors and advocates and that is partly correct. The purple ribbons also are meant to bring the message that there is no place for domestic violence in schools, homes, communities or workplaces.

The color purple represents courage, survival, honor and dedication to ending domestic violence.

So where are you going to put your purple?

Domestic Violence Awareness Month and it's history

2008-09-20T04:33:00.001-05:00

With Domestic Violence Awareness Month just around the corner I thought maybe some would like to know how this month came about. Many often say that everything has a month and well DV gets October....there is a little more to it than that.

Yes, we should all be thinking of Awareness and Advocacy throughout the year; however this is the one month of the year that everyone can also come together to remember those that have been touched by domestic violence in one way or another.

The National Coalition Against Domestic Violence (NCADV) held the first ever Day of Unity in October 1981. I do not know, nor can I find why they picked one day in the month of October, but this day is what started it all. The Day of Unity was intended to represent the unity of advocates working for victims of domestic violence across the United States.

The Day of Unity eventually became a week-long recognition of:

advocates who were committed to the prevention of domestic violence,

remembrance of the women and children killed because of domestic violence, and

the recognition and celebration of those who survived domestic violence.

The first Domestic Violence Awareness Month was October 1987. The goal was to coordinate efforts nationwide to educate communities about domestic violence, the effects on community and the resources available to help survivors. That first national toll-free hotline began that same year.

In 1989 the first Domestic Violence Awareness Month Commemorative Legislation was passed by the United States Congress. Since Domestic Violence Awareness Month’s enactment, State Legislatures across the nation have done the same as well.

Domestic Violence Awareness Month is also a time to encourage the public to take active steps to address domestic violence. The hope is that a month of intensified awareness efforts combined with the broad spectrum of anti-domestic violence work throughout the year will bring us closer to ending domestic violence.

So what are you going to do this year?

Today is the DAY!!

2008-09-19T15:12:00.001-05:00

Today is National Respect Day to raise awareness about sexual assault and take a stand against child abuse.

You can lend your support by texting the keyword “RESPECT” to 41010 – for a goal of 10 million acts of respect for the 10 million children who witness violence in their homes each year. Your mobile effort will be mapped out on GiveRespect.org, which will be populated by the minute with respect acts across the country.

You can also go to the web site and sign the declaration which will also be mapped. Look around the site once you get there, there is information and many different ways to become involved.

This is a virtual rally, so no matter where you are you can join in the rally! If you are concerned for your private information, then use a different name and zip code when signing the declaration, it is the numbers that count!

You can also choose to donate $5 from your mobile phone to support the Family Violence Prevention Fund (FVPF), one of the nation’s leading organizations working to prevent and end violence against women and children, and you can invite a friend to join the movement. (The $5 donation will be added to your phone bill after you opt in.)

Give Respect!

2008-09-18T16:55:00.001-05:00

Dear Readers,

There's a worldwide rally for respect going on. And it's all about preventing violence against women and children by building safer, healthier, and stronger homes and communities throughout the world.
Join me at the rally for respect at GiveRespect.org.

From,
Mary

2008-09-15T08:32:00.000-05:00

i gave my life coaching blog a face lift...go check it out:

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Discussion Groups

2008-09-05T23:49:00.002-05:00

Ok, I found this while stumbling around the www .....I actually find this to be
very funny but in another sort of way very sad, because it is oh so true of over
half the discussions groups that I am on.... especially right now with everyone trying to
'dis-cuss' politics....ROFLMAO actually!!  How I wish I could actually post this to a couple of
the groups just so some would maybe SEE how ridiculous they are!!  But then the
professionally offended amongst them would get their panties (of sorry...undergarments) in
such a wad they may never be found again!

Subject:  Light Bulb/Discussion Groups (fwd)

Q:  How many internet mail list subscribers does it take
    to change a light bulb?

A:  1,331:

1 to change the light bulb and to post to the mail list that the light
bulb has been changed.

14 to share similar experiences of changing light bulbs and how the light
bulb could have been changed differently.

7 to caution about the dangers of changing light bulbs.

27 to point out spelling/grammar errors in posts about changing light bulbs.

53 to flame the spell checkers

156 to write to the list administrator complaining about the light bulb
discussion and its inappropriateness to this mail list.

41 to correct spelling in the spelling/grammar flames.

109 to post that this list is not about light bulbs and to please take
this email exchange to alt.light.bulb

203 to demand that cross posting to alt.grammar, alt.spelling and
alt.punctuation about changing light bulbs be stopped.

111 to defend the posting to this list saying that we all use light bulbs
and therefore the posts **are** relevant to this mail list.

306 to debate which method of changing light bulbs is superior, where to
buy the best light bulbs, what brand of light bulbs work best for this
technique, and what brands are faulty.

27 to post URLs where one can see examples of different light bulbs

14 to post that the URLs were posted incorrectly, and to post corrected URLs.

3 to post about links they found from the URLs that are relevant to this
list which makes light bulbs relevant to this list.

33 to concatenate all posts to date, then quote them including all headers
and footers, and then add "Me Too."

12 to post to the list that they are unsubscribing because they cannot
handle the light bulb controversey.

19 to quote the "Me Too's" to say, "Me Three."

4 to suggest that posters request the light bulb FAQ.

1 to propose new alt.change.light.bulb newsgroup.

47 to say this is just what alt.physic.cold_fusion was meant for, leave
it here.

143 votes for alt.lite.bulb.

Help DV Victims across the US

2008-08-26T12:46:00.000-05:00

What little girls are made of...

2008-08-15T20:10:00.000-05:00

Gun Powder and Lead

This video says it all!! Please watch it, read what it says, listen to the song, then absorb the meaning. This is no joke!! It happens all the time!! Feel free to share this far and wide.

What'd'ya do.....

2008-08-12T23:50:00.002-05:00

What do you do when you have so many things to say to so many different people and you just can't say them? In some cases I have things I need to say to people, but if said these things will either hurt their feelings or piss them off. Either way in those couple of cases those people would no longer be in my life. Which in the over all grand scheme of things would not be bad for me...as these are those that are taking anything they can but never giving back...which would be of no great loss to me, however I just don't want to be mean. There have been times in my life when being mean to others never made me bat an eye....so now, when I really do need to be mean in a few cases, in-order to stand of for myself, I can't bring myself to doing it?

Then there are the few people that do actually mean something to me and that I do not want to piss off or hurt....which if I said what needs to be said to them would hurt them....well more likely piss them off first until it sunk in then it would hurt them. In this groups are those that should be told certain things but again I can't bring myself to say these things. Do I let these people go on with their blinders to these things?

Then I also have a few nicer things to say and can't....this truly is for my own fear. If I were to let someone know certain things I am thinking it would be letting down barriers I have taken far too long to build. Like all that work crumbled in mere seconds to nothing....then where would I be? I know I should not fear nor even care about others reactions to things I may have to say.....but after so many years of keeping the 'softer' side of me buried so deep how now to I let that show?

Why can't I be straight forward? I have not actually mislead any of these people nor have I been dishonest. However, I am starting to feel that I am being dishonest in my inability to say what I am really thinking. This is something new for me...actually thinking of someone else's feelings above my own and not wanting to hurt others. I do kinda think I'd like to go back to the way I used to be...saying what I think, when I think it, without regard to how it is taken and what reaction the other person may have. Why have I become somehow concerned with what others may think? How did I let this happen?

Scour--A new way to search and get paid for it!!

2008-07-29T22:37:00.001-05:00

Did you hear about Scour? It is the next gen search engine with Google/Yahoo/MSN results and user comments all on one page. Best of all we get paid for using it by earning points with every search, comment and vote. The points are redeemable for Visa gift cards! It's like earning credit card or airline points just for searching! Hit the link below to join for free and we will both get points!

http://scour.com/invite/cancermoonwolf

Birth Announcement of Baby Taylor Douglas Ferris

2008-07-29T15:40:00.001-05:00

Birth Announcement of Baby Taylor Douglas Ferris

Testing again...

2008-07-13T01:36:00.000-05:00

Ok, one last test...I messed up the last one...didn't know I had to be using Blogger in Draft.....ah well, I have learned!

Testing Windows Live Writer

2008-07-13T01:30:00.000-05:00

Ok, so I downloaded Windows Live Writer and it has a button that gives me the option to Set the publish date.....so I am doing a test to see if I set up this post and then turn the computer off if it will still publish at the time I set.
I guess most of you already that it will or won't and I also guess I could have looked it up or asked someone, but I'd rather just play around with this myself...much more fun that way!

Lust in space: Nasa must iron out the kinks in space sex if man is to settle on Mars - Telegraph

2008-07-13T01:13:00.000-05:00

This was just kinda funny to me and I wanted to share so that all of you could get the same mental image I did just from reading the title.....LOL!

Lust in space: Nasa must iron out the kinks in space sex if man is to settle on Mars - Telegraph

Cool new Blidget...well new to me!!

2008-07-06T00:54:00.000-05:00

SocialFeed Widget: Twitter, Pownce, Vimeo & More!great free widgetsWidgetbox

Domestic violence research question

2008-06-11T09:20:00.003-05:00

United Angels Against Domestic Violence is doing research on the different abusive scenrio's that people endure. We have put a short one question poll up on the UAADV News Blog http://uaadvnewsblog.blogspot.com/ (Yes, we realize that one question isn't enough but we are taking this in stages.)

Please look at the link above, the poll is in the upper left corner. For now this is only one question with very few generalized answers. We will get more in depth with the questions and answers as thing progress. If you feel that your main reason is not listed, please feel free to email UAADV.National@gmail.com with your reason and it will be added to upcoming questions and answers lists. (We will not be keeping the names or email addy's of those that email us)

Please pass this link onto as many as you think would answer the question.

You do not need to sign into Blogger to answer this question.

Thank you all for your time and help in this matter!!!

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2008-06-05T20:33:00.001-05:00

Resentment is like drinking poison and waiting for the other person to die.-Carrie Fisher

2008-06-05T15:34:00.001-05:00

2008-05-01T10:58:00.000-05:00

falling off a tree doesn't necessarily mean you are ripe

List of social networking websites

2008-04-22T15:45:00.000-05:00

While trying to assist someone in finding a teen friendly social networking site I ran across this list. I found it fairly useful since it gives some details of who uses the sites and what they are more geared to..... List of social networking websites - Wikipedia, the free encyclopedia

Healing you can do yourself

2008-04-18T10:24:00.000-05:00

This website has covers the most common ailments that people suffer. It give the backgound and how to heal yourself without drugs or surgery. It is very interesting reading and in my opinion very informational and helpful.

FREE information tells how new way helps you heal yourself of any physical, mental or spiritual problems, without drugs or surgery.

Updating and Organizing!

2008-04-16T15:11:00.003-05:00

For the next few days I am updating things and trying to get all my sites, pages, profiles, etc. organized. I am adding the blidgets of my main blogs to other sites where I have profiles so that everyone can easily keep in touch and up dated on what I am doing. In an effort to stop spinning my wheels and actually get things done I have decided to use only 4 of my blogs to post. This one as my personal one, Tailored Life Coaching for life coaching articles, UAADV NC for domestic violence related stuff pertaining to North Carolina, and UAADV News Blog for domestic violence related news articles. I have made blidgets for all four of these with widgetbox to find/use them go here. If that link doesn't work for you, let me know!

TV Show 'I Survived'

2008-03-25T20:57:00.000-05:00

What would you do if you were confronted with death? What gives someone the strength to survive? Is it luck, chance, instinct? In a stripped-down, simple-yet-cinematic interview style, I Survived... allows survivors to explain, in their own words, how they overcame unbelievable circumstances -- offering....http://www.biography.com/isurvived/episode.jsp

Go Empower Yourself Through God's Word

2008-03-25T20:55:00.001-05:00

Are you mad at God? Do you feel like He has turned His back on you or maybe that He doesn’t exist at all? If you answered either of these questions with a yes or even a maybe, then these Bible studies are written for you. Through our abuse, we often loose our faith in God and often we will find ourselves questioning everything to do with Jesus. You can get back in touch with God; in fact, He wants you to. Jesus understands our pain and our suffering and can’t wait for us to reach for Him. http://stores.lulu.com/tailoredlifecoaching

Angela Shelton TV!!

2008-03-22T11:21:00.000-05:00

Check it out...New video's of Angela ..... http://www.angelashelton.tv/

The Game

2008-03-09T15:13:00.000-05:00

The Game by Disturbed is about someone being beaten. For more information on Domestic Violence go to www.uaadv.org

Video by: doves4luv on YouTube

UAADV News Blog: The Game

Every Day....

2008-03-03T05:35:00.001-06:00

Copy this code to your website to display this banner!

This banner was designed by:
Angela Martin
UAADV ~SC~
UAADV.SC@gmail.com
http://www.uaadv.org

Grieving mother seeks law to help others avoid domestic violence -- South Florida Sun-Sentinel.com

2007-10-14T12:04:00.000-05:00

Almost a year has passed since Carter's ex-husband, Tony Camacho, 39, killed their children and himself by setting fire to the house Carter had won in a two-year custody battle, authorities said. But she remembers that Dec. 21 night like it happened yesterday

Grieving mother seeks law to help others avoid domestic violence -- South Florida Sun-Sentinel.com

Program with ADT that saves lives

2007-10-12T15:42:00.001-05:00

Please click the link below. This is a program that has been around for 15 years but is not widely heard of. We need to get the word out.

http://uaadvnewsblog.blogspot.com/

--
Providing DV Victims and Survivors with the hope to survive today, tomorrow, and beyond;
Mary
VP, United Angels Against Domestic Violence-- http://www.uaadv.org
Co-Owner, Crafty Angels--http://www.wohca.org
http://www.cafepress.com/dv_awareness
http://www.cafepress.com/dv_ncmawareness

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